The first is overgaming. All of that stuff about the brisket, the teasing, etc. Just drop it. If you are too “C&F” or too “teasy” you come off like a kid at recess.
Second is also overgaming, but wider margin for error. When she asks you out of the blue to hang out, there’s no need to tease. A lot of people worry about saying ‘nothing,’ because then you look like a loser. So just say ‘not yet, why.’ Losers can hang out with anyone at any time because they never have plans. Social people tend to have plans. Popular people have so many offers that they can wait a bit and choose the best option.
Third lol….sending a pic? She sends YOU pics. So much overgaming. Here would be my exchange:
‘Me: [no picture] sup, are you back?
Her: I’m coming back.
Me: Nice. Let’s get together this week at X time at X location.’
I don’t think it’s about surprise or anything like that. It’s just that chicks can spot a phony. A dude who overgames is a dude who quickly reveals himself as inexperienced.
It’s called “banter.” It happens effortlessly in socially well-adjusted people who aren’t brain-pickled by pickup dogma. Not everything reduces to plotted strategy.
I note the resentment in those who try training themselves in easy conversation but after years still can’t pull it off smoothly. Plan B is to denounce the gift of easy/teasy nothing-talk. “Look at how hard he’s trying!!!” — when it’s not that hard.
Why not “come off like a kid at recess”? Clearly you are worried that the rest of your social presentation — attitude, status, appearance, ability to direct the conversation — can’t withstand self-amusing chit chat.
You humorless simps who can’t crack a smile (sometimes even at your own expense) are the biggest targets there are.
“You humorless simps who can’t crack a smile (sometimes even at your own expense) are the biggest targets there are.”
King just stop trying to give game advice. You’re not good at it, no one really thinks you have any sort of admirable social skills, and when you give advice you can’t do it without insulting the person and acting like they’re an inferior moron (see this and your reply to Buena above) which by default shows you aren’t very good at social situations or leading other men.
Stick to the bible rants. Know your pay grade. This stuff is just embarrassing and cringe-worthy to read.
So that’s why my ears were ringing.
1) note that none of this shit has to do with what car you drive, what your job is, etc. You can be a complete bum but if you can get 10 min with a smokin hottie to run this kind of thing on her and hook her, you can have that girl chasing you. Having money etc. can get you more access to hot girls, like being able to get into exclusive parties and such, but being able to build solid rapport/comfort with people quickly can get you into those same parties for free. Being good looking can help you get more of a window to speak to the girls (VS looking homeless and not getting a chance to speak), but you ca intrigue a girl enough to give you that same window through other PUA concepts like social proof and using pivots etc.
This stuff is basically “Give me 10 minutes to talk away my ugly face and I will bed the queen of France” in action.
Girls want to feel emotionally engaged, both the highs and the lows. If they just wanted looks every girl would have stacks of Playgirl mags, if they just wanted money they would rub a wad of bills over their vag…but they read 50 Shades and Twilight and watch soap operas and shit where they’re emotionally engaged and invested and get addicted to feeling feels lol You can provide that just with your words. It’s why The Cube and Strawberry Fields were used so much in the early PUA days…that shit was chick CRACK
2) a lot of AFCs make the mistake of trying for Comfort before they have Rapport or Attraction. They meet a girl and try to skip Attraction/Rapport and jump right to “so uhh what school do you go to? cool cool that’s a good school, what are you studying? cool I’m studying this other thing. cool, so uhh, do you wanna go out sometime?” You start with Attraction, then transition into Rapport which transitions naturally into Comfort, then into Seduction. Sometimes you can blast through these stages quickly, like you get Attraction off your looks or a sweet opener that hits perfectly…but you generally have to go through the MM order of things.
3) on the flip side a lot of caveman style PUA tries to skip the Comfort stage and just go from Attraction to Rapport and skip into Seduction and just spam shotgun blast approach with that. Better success rate for getting laid than what the AFC I described in point 2 does, but the full out seduction process is better than both of them. It’s just harder to learn and teach because there’s so many different aspects to it, but if you can nail them you can do some pretty awesome shit.
If you’re “studying pickup” and you didn’t write a few of those questions from the OP article down in your phone (grab a couple from each section so you get the full light rapport to heavy deep comfort progression) to actively try applying them in-field with girls this weekend (esp with Valentine’s Day and all)…what are you even doing here?? lol Go try this shit out.
The thing about Ya is that what Ya says simply gibes with real life. You can predict based on PUA sayings. Greg et al just say a bunch of shit that may or may not be true.
Latest example: Ya (and PUA principles) correctly predicted that despite a good-looking dude in the lead and saucy source material, women would think that 50 Shades of Grey Movie wouldn’t be sexy.
“Part of the difficulty is the lack of sexual chemistry between the two leads.”
“Perhaps worst of all, chemistry is nil between Jamie Dornan as billionaire Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson as curious college student Anastasia Steele.”
Go read the reviews for yourselves.
“That’s just bad policy, or worse, indiscipline.”
Matt’s scolding tone policing shit is like a little girl having a pretend tea party throwing a huff that people aren’t following her rules. “DADDY you have to lift your PINKY when you drink the pretend tea!!!! Now Mr. Bunny what do we say when someone fills our tea cup?”
Although I’m enjoying his new victim strategy of “everything I’ve ever said for years has actively been picking fights with you, but I took a few months off and now I’m back pretending to give a shit about your best interests and you don’t seem to believe that I’ve had a change of heart and suddenly care, I’m such a victim everyone look at big bad ol YaReally being paranoid and mean!!”
If people don’t trust you, it’s because you fucked your own reputation up long ago. Time to read The Boy Who Cried Wolf during storytime at your next tea party.