B-but CH…what if I get down to 6% bodyfat from 7%??? This one time a girl smiled at me when I left the gym so I know this game stuff doesn’t matter. It’s all looks. I know this good-looking guy and girls come up to him at the bar when I’m standing beside him being a quiet chode sipping my drink and feeling sorry for myself because of my shitty genetics and he has SEX with these girls!! So ok maybe looks don’t “matter” but I mean, they definitely DO matter.
“People who understand the dangers of an overabundant diet of mass-media images can stop gorging on Playboy, People, Sex and the City, or Dancing with the Stars.”
That’s one way to look at it. I know a guy who’s settling down with an average 6 looking plain jane wife and he’s told me he’s avoiding going out around hot girls because seeing them makes him feel like his plain 6 wife is ugly when he gets home and wants to just move to the suburbs to isolate himself and avoid temptation and he hopes his libido dies off soon so he won’t be tempted to fuck around.
And that’s what the PC crowd would like us to do. Because to them all those models and shit are magical fantasy beings that don’t actually exist, because they know they could never get them. Every one of the models in some magazine is a girl that’s out there living her life day to day and is fucking SOMEONE. If you have some decent game and find a way to get access to the places that girls like that spend their time, there’s no reason that guy fucking them can’t be you.
So I choose to look at it as motivation. Instead of settling for a 6 and avoiding looking at other girls who make her seem ugly, I choose to keep looking for a 9 or 10 who IS the girl who makes other girls seem ugly to me.
Life is too short to waste it aiming low.
you are confusing ‘looks’ with ‘confidence’. being good-looking does help your confidence levels, but being good-at-something does too. and confidence on a man IS hot.
stop sipping your drink and feeling sorry for yourself. redirect your energy into self-improvement, not necessarily at the gym. you can be the worlds best starcraft player and a 10 somewhere will want you.
what CH says here is absolutely true, but there are 3 minor caveats:
1. height (most short men have an obvious issue with self-confidence)
2. race (most non-white men have a visible inferiority complex, especially in traditionally white societies but not vice-versa)
If it all matters, work on all of it at the same time. Problem solved. Bust your ass for paper during the day, lift during the evening, go out and live it up at night. Profit.
Going out at night or just interacting with the women you encounter keeps your head on straight and it constantly reminds you of what you need to improve.
I’d type more FR”s but I’m busy rolling with it and trying to get to a new place.