More on whiteknighting re: the Coz.
The allegations are stupid.
One woman says he “forced” her to give him a handjob. riiiiight.
The other says he put her hand on his junk and then gave her a “hard kiss” after taking her home for the night — oooooooooh.
Another says she was partying with him, blacked out to realize she was “about to” engage in oral sex and just left/went to the bathroom — yeah, what a rapist, he just lets his prey leave without incident.
Another whines about being drugged, but apparently kept on seeing him every night while she was in town….
Another one who was “raped” and then put up in a Penthouse, then kept in touch with him for 20 years and had consensual sex with him at least one other time…
One of them says he drugged her after she ended a consensual sexual relationship. etc. etc.
Look at what nearly ALL OF THEM SAY: “he made me feel used,” “he didn’t make me feel special.” lol….
“Look at what nearly ALL OF THEM SAY: “he made me feel used,” “he didn’t make me feel special.” lol….”
The lesson to take from all the shit going down lately with high-profile dudes being accused of shit is how important it is for guys these days to have a VERY thorough understanding of avoiding/diffusing Buyer’s Remorse.
It didn’t matter much in the past, because there wasn’t the Internet and social media SJW mobs and easy anonymous accusations and the ridiculous fear-mongering of feminism toward men, being able to post real or fake screencaps of text convos and chat logs, pics to show who the guy is and dox him, instant expulsion of men from universities for accusations with no evidence, etc. So if a chick felt shitty after having sex, it didn’t really matter for the guy.
But NOW you’d better make DAMN sure the girls you fuck leave the interaction feeling like special snowflakes about it and collect a fuckload of txts before and after getting her to admit she loves/loved what you’re gonna’ do/did. Letting her crash overnight and taking her for an Egg McMuffin in the morning is gay but it could be the difference between her anonymously accusing you of rape 10 years later when you come into money/fame, or you being able to enjoy your success worry-free.
If you’re running proper game, you shouldn’t be getting Buyer’s Remorse. BR generally comes from the girl feeling used or not special, which is usually because you either didn’t qualify her hard enough (so she didn’t “earn” you and could have been just any random girl), or you didn’t built enough rapport/comfort with her where you two have a personal little bond…or you fucked up both of those things.
If you happen to pull quickly for sex without much comfort/rapport, cuddle afterward and run your comfort/rapport there so she feels special, otherwise odds are pretty good that she’s going to feel slutty and shitty about what she did when she gets home.
Ramp this up a thousand-fold if you’re into rough BDSM shit with girls…if you go through an emotionally intense rape roleplay sex session, you need to cuddle with her for like an hour stroking her back and joking around and shit (the first time for sure, after that you can calibrate how much she needs) and let her adrenaline come back down with you so you can re-enforce that that was all just play stuff and that outside of the roleplaying you like and appreciate her bla bla bla
Again, it’s all gay I know, but letting your girls get Buyer’s Remorse these days is like playing russian roulette. Even the chick in the slutty outfit dancing up on the bar who puts out on the first night without knowing your name wants to feel special lol
I never thought it would happen to me but it’s happening. Just the natural slow slide into not giving a shit. I guess you just start noticing patterns after doing this for awhile.
Now I’m just naturally chill and aloof with my fbs— mainly because I’m like “what, are we going to embark on some attempt at disneyland relationship time? the same shit ends up happening eventually and there’s no reason for me to do that unless I literally think she’s such a great and unique person worth tying myself down to.” Never thought I’d say it, but it’s true.
I hadn’t talked to one of them for like 3 weeks. She’s been texting me but I haven’t texted back. The last time I talked to her, she was just kind of irrational and annoying. Nothing that really pissed me off. But when you’re in a place of abundance, you just think ‘oh yeah the last time I talked to them, they were annoying, not worth the time tonight.’ Enough time passes to where ‘okay I don’t have anything to do tonight and that was a long time ago, I guess I can give this a whirl.’ And then, without even realizing it, you have executed the soft Next.
Fucking blew my mind.
sometimes I believe that criticisms can be compliments. For example, at a recent gathering someone told me that I wasn’t fun anymore or that I used to be more fun and that I looked nice.
I just interpreted that to mean that they thought I was more attractive than before and not a dancing monkey and that they were adjusting.
I was right. They tried to make out with me at the end of the night (I didn’t go for it…she was like a 5.5).
“I hadn’t talked to one of them for like 3 weeks. She’s been texting me but I haven’t texted back. The last time I talked to her, she was just kind of irrational and annoying. Nothing that really pissed me off. But when you’re in a place of abundance, you just think ‘oh yeah the last time I talked to them, they were annoying, not worth the time tonight.’ Enough time passes to where ‘okay I don’t have anything to do tonight and that was a long time ago, I guess I can give this a whirl.’ And then, without even realizing it, you have executed the soft Next. ”
This is literally the reason a lot of hotter girls flake on guys, esp guys who fuck up and give them bad emotions, or not even bad emotions just UNCOMFORTABLE emotions. Girls spend their entire lives running away from uncomfortable emotions…try to discuss a girl’s finances or long-term life plan with her and she’ll change the subject to something that doesn’t make her feel uncomfortable emotions.
It’s not that you don’t like the girl, it’s that she isn’t high enough value for you to wade through those crappy emotions she made you feel and you have other options so it’s like “ehh I just won’t reply, whatever”.
And when you get bored some random night, you might give her another chance as long as she makes all the effort, just like a hot girl might let an orbiter buy her dinner because she’s bored and doesn’t want to cook and the guy she wanted to fuck is busy that night.
It’s not a malicious thing, it’s just easier to not bother with people who aren’t bringing positive value to your life when you have other options.
So remember that the next time a chick doesn’t return your txts or flakes on a date etc. lol Hanging out with you just isn’t high-value enough a scenario for her to make the effort…next time step your game up and DHV tighter or don’t get all butthurt via txt etc.