The best news out of this is that you dont even have to have a criminal record to obtain the edgy personality that chicks dig! If you just slightly give less of a fuck than the men, scratch that, males around you, you probably do what you want in life and dont take well to society’s orders. Nothing too brash, just enough that you are a leader, not a follower.
Its amazing to me, after reading this website since 2009, that people still fight this.
90% of manosphere commenters just shit the bed
Some random thoughts for the guys who are going to get off their ass and take action:
-Always remember that the big picture is what matters…any “failure”, rejection etc. makes your life 0.01% better, as will any successes that you get.
-Distill the lessons of your experiences, and let them go. Replaying “woulda shoulda coulda” thoughts in your head are a waste. Anything that happened even one minute ago does not matter. Let it roll off, you have a job to do.
-Ultimately, this is a journey of YOU and your emotional independence. “I run my emotions, my emotions DON’T run me.”
-If you set a hard goal, you will get there. “This is what I want, this is what I’m going to do.” Accept yourself as the type of person who accomplishes what he sets out to do, and you aren’t going to take the lazy route of just being given something by society.
-Whatever you’ve been led to believe about the types of women you can get or the amount of money you can earn in your life….is bullshit. All of it. The sky is the limit, as long as you believe it. Don’t listen to crap advice about what you are limited to in life (I’m looking at you, Tucker Max, and your shitty fucking website). Don’t get fixiated on one girl (lol remember, she has to choose you, and it’s the qualities you are learning along the way that girls are consistently attracted to) or one opportunity.
-”Attraction is not a choice.” You are learning to replace the habits that don’t work with the ones that do, and it takes time and application. The sooner, the better. This is what happens when you see guys who are literally doing very little (like pick up instructors) who women swoon over…they are embodying these traits.
And this last one is a little visual that I do, even now, with almost every bit of growth that I gain with a new task, new knowledge, etc. It seems kinda new-agey, even to me lol but bear with me. It’s the same process that I use with ANYTHING I set out to do…I grow and change for the better, and leave the old behind:
I decide that I am going to be X and leave Y behind. I envision a creek, in the woods. I see the new type of person I want to be (excellent with women, successful stock trader, etc.), and that is the other side of the creek. I jump the creek, and I leave the “old me” behind. I have no attachment to the other side of the creek I just left…I wave it goodbye. Now I’ve got my work to do, my new trails to cut. This is the better life, the reward, the one that almost no one chooses, because it’s challenging (but VERY doable). I’m not going to bitch out like 90% do every day of their lives by doing nothing to advance themselves, I’m going all the way. I will be contrarian to them in almost every way. I’m already a winner, and I’m going to learn the skills to get the results I want in this specific area.
I will NOT go back to the other side of the creek.
-“Attraction is not a choice.” You are learning to replace the habits that don’t work with the ones that do, and it takes time and application. The sooner, the better. This is what happens when you see guys who are literally doing very little (like pick up instructors) who women swoon over…they are embodying these traits.
Universally, in girls’ minds:
Unpredictability = freshness, fun, excitement, drama (slight), meaningfulness, investment in thoughts towards the person
Predictable = boring, safe, too reliable, dry….can find these guys on any street corner.
If you tease, you are now not one of the 95%. You are in the 5% of guys she sees “differently” where she’s thinking “What’s up with him? Why isn’t he fawning over me like the rest?”
You have successfully treated a “hot/high value commodity” as something that you can take-or-leave. You weren’t being “mean” or cruel or even in any way TRYING to do anything, it was just an expression of WHO YOU ARE and how high value you see yourself. You’re actually a friendly person just having fun.
^^I guess I just described my own subconscious lol but yea, that works.
Also, a related point……new guys, start thinking this way: Break outside your box. The hot girls you have been led to believe all your life were “out of your league” because you have x-attributes and that leaves you to y-options where society will tell you “Ok little man, here’s your little box! You live your life within this realm of choices and you will be happy! This is the type of girl you can expect to get! BECAUSE WE SAID SO! Believe us!”
Actually, don’t. Everything you’ve ever been told is a lie. Everything.
I know I sound all Fight Club and shit, but I’ve had some recent events where I stepped up my own game, got some awesome results and I’m thinking “Wow….so that CAN and DID happen. :)”
I used to watch that movie and think “Ok…I get the premise and they are right! But still, I mean, there IS reality. There ARE limits.”
But now I’m rethinking it. In terms of girls and money, I’m starting to see now that there are none. I really put a lot of work into myself over the years, and I’ve begun to really LET GO of all the shit I was concerned about, and I’m starting to see how things are coming to me instead of me chasing, worrying, etc. It’s like, I’ve fully accepted myself and all of the stuff (like being short) that I, even when I had a little success, I STILL viewed as a bit of an obstacle…I just let it go.