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PimpinBlueStar
on September 30, 2013 at 9:33 am
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Anyone who spouts these platitudes above seem to all have the same characteristic in common: They have given up in life. They have no accountability to the betterment of themselves. It’s a “let’s take what we can and drag everyone else down” whether they want to admit that to themselves or not.



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PimpinBlueStar
on September 30, 2013 at 9:33 am
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Anyone who spouts these platitudes above seem to all have the same characteristic in common: They have given up in life. They have no accountability to the betterment of themselves. It’s a “let’s take what we can and drag everyone else down” whether they want to admit that to themselves or not.



Are Beta Males Responsible For Feminism?

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Rum
on September 27, 2013 at 1:49 pm
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One of my all-time favorite CH offerings was the one about how seriously beta guys normally go their entire lives without enjoying the kinds of experience one needs to truly understand the female hind-brain. Since a majority of men in most times and places fall into this category, nothing more is needed, imho, to explain why men in general fall for womens BS of the moment. “Feminism” just being the latest example.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 27, 2013 at 1:55 pm
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    Yep. Until you truly unplug yourself from EVERYTHING that people feed you (the media narratives, blogs, advertising, your mom) then you’ll stay a sucker on some level.



Are Beta Males Responsible For Feminism?

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Rum
on September 27, 2013 at 1:49 pm
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One of my all-time favorite CH offerings was the one about how seriously beta guys normally go their entire lives without enjoying the kinds of experience one needs to truly understand the female hind-brain. Since a majority of men in most times and places fall into this category, nothing more is needed, imho, to explain why men in general fall for womens BS of the moment. “Feminism” just being the latest example.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 27, 2013 at 1:55 pm
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    Yep. Until you truly unplug yourself from EVERYTHING that people feed you (the media narratives, blogs, advertising, your mom) then you’ll stay a sucker on some level.



Are Beta Males Responsible For Feminism?

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PimpinBlueStar
on September 27, 2013 at 1:53 pm
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Interesting theory. I would say there’s a bit of truth to that. Beta males, at the verge of losing their bargaining power, offer notions of “equality” (a lose lose situation for both parties…instead of lifting everyone up it becomes a race to the bottom) at the hopes of scoring poooosie points. Much like taking the insurance at the blackjack table when the dealer shows an ace, the beta males jumped on it, causing them to lose twice on the hand.

And it’s VERY prevalent amongst guys who should be alpha. I saw an article passed around on facebook yesterday by buzzfeed.com titled “40 Things Every Self-Respecting Man Should Own” which is a list of fancy ass razors, colognes, towel sets…etc. Remember guys, you CANNOT call yourself a man unless you have the BuzzFeed approved items. This article is aspirational….it’s written FOR beta males who want to appear alpha. “Forget actually being a man when you can buy the IMAGE! PEER APPROVED!”

What I’ve come to understand now and see in a matrix like fashion is a bunch of guys who cling to the “appearance” of what a man “should” look like, without having the slightest on the inner workings of what that would actually be.

They rely on image and group acceptance of that image, then at 40 wonder why they aren’t happy. It’s OK little buddy, don’t try to think about it too hard, EVERYONE is like that. Because we’re telling you now, trust us. Here, here’s a benzo to help you sleep a little better.



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PimpinBlueStar
on September 27, 2013 at 1:53 pm
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Interesting theory. I would say there’s a bit of truth to that. Beta males, at the verge of losing their bargaining power, offer notions of “equality” (a lose lose situation for both parties…instead of lifting everyone up it becomes a race to the bottom) at the hopes of scoring poooosie points. Much like taking the insurance at the blackjack table when the dealer shows an ace, the beta males jumped on it, causing them to lose twice on the hand.

And it’s VERY prevalent amongst guys who should be alpha. I saw an article passed around on facebook yesterday by buzzfeed.com titled “40 Things Every Self-Respecting Man Should Own” which is a list of fancy ass razors, colognes, towel sets…etc. Remember guys, you CANNOT call yourself a man unless you have the BuzzFeed approved items. This article is aspirational….it’s written FOR beta males who want to appear alpha. “Forget actually being a man when you can buy the IMAGE! PEER APPROVED!”

What I’ve come to understand now and see in a matrix like fashion is a bunch of guys who cling to the “appearance” of what a man “should” look like, without having the slightest on the inner workings of what that would actually be.

They rely on image and group acceptance of that image, then at 40 wonder why they aren’t happy. It’s OK little buddy, don’t try to think about it too hard, EVERYONE is like that. Because we’re telling you now, trust us. Here, here’s a benzo to help you sleep a little better.



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Operation Reinhard
on September 27, 2013 at 3:35 pm
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This Judeo-Feminism we’re seeing now was invented by the rat-faced, meat cleaver-nosed scum and is part of the program to exterminate the White race.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 29, 2013 at 9:27 pm
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    I’m lol’ing at the thought of being EITHER a jew-feminist or a nazi…there is no middle ground.



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Operation Reinhard
on September 27, 2013 at 3:35 pm
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This Judeo-Feminism we’re seeing now was invented by the rat-faced, meat cleaver-nosed scum and is part of the program to exterminate the White race.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 29, 2013 at 9:27 pm
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    I’m lol’ing at the thought of being EITHER a jew-feminist or a nazi…there is no middle ground.



A Thin Line Between Bad Game And Tight Game

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PA
on September 25, 2013 at 8:45 am
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I once knew a guy, a taciturn redneck who had an inexplicable effect on preppy girls. He once got a girl to light up when he blurted out in front of everyone “you gonna wash your twat?” For the record, she didn’t smell. He just said stuff like that.

He got away with it because he was already ensconced in our proto-swpl group, and his playful crudeness was congruent. In RD’s example, he was a stranger and the neg/insult apparently came out out of place in the course of a normal nice conversation.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 26, 2013 at 10:00 am
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    lol wash your twat

    You can same some presumably mean shit and if you take away the subtle “Ammirite guys?!?” that most people have in their heads when they attempt a neg and comes off as an insult….then people will be like “Damn that guy just doesn’t give a FUCK.”



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PA
on September 25, 2013 at 8:45 am
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I once knew a guy, a taciturn redneck who had an inexplicable effect on preppy girls. He once got a girl to light up when he blurted out in front of everyone “you gonna wash your twat?” For the record, she didn’t smell. He just said stuff like that.

He got away with it because he was already ensconced in our proto-swpl group, and his playful crudeness was congruent. In RD’s example, he was a stranger and the neg/insult apparently came out out of place in the course of a normal nice conversation.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 26, 2013 at 10:00 am
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    lol wash your twat

    You can same some presumably mean shit and if you take away the subtle “Ammirite guys?!?” that most people have in their heads when they attempt a neg and comes off as an insult….then people will be like “Damn that guy just doesn’t give a FUCK.”



That Which Doesn’t Kill You, Makes You More Seductive

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Hunter
on September 24, 2013 at 10:01 am
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Left a long ass FR on here, but I think it got eaten up. I’ll rewrite it later. Basically racked up a shitton of fuckups after watching RSD Blueprint and MM a bit over the weekend. Gonna go out on a date this week (meet through a friend so, doesn’t count). Anyway, later bros.


  • Hunter
    on September 24, 2013 at 10:32 pm
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    Date didn’t go well. We were total opposites lol. Fine by me.


    • YaReally
      on September 24, 2013 at 11:29 pm
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      All good. Being okay with her not being your type is good internally, as well.

      A lot of beta/AFC guys get stuck in the mindset that “it HAS to work with this girl…she’s The One!!” Meanwhile the girl might be a TERRIBLE match for him, but because he’s stuck in a scarcity mindset and doesn’t have options, he builds her up in his head and tries to force the square peg into the round hole.

      On the flip side a lot of newbie/intermediate PUAs define themselves by their newfound superpowers of seduction, so as Tyler says “a PUA is the only guy who will be frustrated that a girl HE DOESN’T EVEN LIKE, doesn’t like him.” lol

      It’s cool if you guys don’t click, there are 3.5 billion more women out there, and you’re developing the skills to meet them. :) And you’ve gained a reference experience of going on a date so the next one you’re on, with some chick you DO click with, it’ll feel more normal and natural, which will help her feel like being out with you is normal and natural.

      Good stuff on giving it a go! Also Blueprint is some heavy shit lol don’t feel bad if you don’t finish it or absorb it all, I love it but it fucks a lot of guys up for a few weeks/months after they watch it lol What he says at the start about re-listening to it at different points and taking new stuff out of it is true. I give it a watch once a year and stuff that was relevant to me before fades out while stuff that’s relevant to where my game has advanced to jumps out and makes me go “wow that didn’t even make sense to me before but it just clicked a part of the puzzle together”.

      Can’t go wrong with classic Mystery Method tho. Hope you get to apply some of this stuff out in the field. :)


      • Hunter
        on September 25, 2013 at 10:17 am
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        For sure, Ya. I was definitely initially annoyed at the beginning of the abrupt end (I inadvertently gave her the opening to end it “I’m probably not you’re type… Kidding lol. Her: You know what… you’re right. Me: Uhhhh… yeah, honestly lol”) but I’m ultimately fine with it. I’m kinda crazy (experimenting with putting my real self completely out there, awkward childhood issues, dating and all) and she was more laid back, but wasn’t into anything i liked.

        The thing I’m starting to realize is why am I always qualifying myself to people (in general)? And it’s not just girls, it’s everyone. When I was a kid, being nice and submissive got me everything. That same method just doesn’t work anymore, and it’s kinda got me annoyed. “Why do I care whether you like ME? How about you try impressing me now?” As if I have some sort of fucking empty cup attached to my back, begging for it to be filled.

        I’ve watched MM and Blueprint too many times before I started going out. And none of it made sense before I actually went out. I thought I knew everything by reading and watching all that I could get my hands on, but apparently not.

        I’ve literally read everything you’ve ever posted dude (again, when I was broke and unemployed and barely ever went out) but have probably forgotten it all anyway cuz I never used it.

        I’ve only been on two dates total in my life now so I guess I have more to go :D


        • PimpinBlueStar
          on September 25, 2013 at 5:23 pm
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          Nice job man! As long as you hustle, you’ll end up where you aim.



That Which Doesn’t Kill You, Makes You More Seductive

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Hunter
on September 24, 2013 at 10:01 am
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Left a long ass FR on here, but I think it got eaten up. I’ll rewrite it later. Basically racked up a shitton of fuckups after watching RSD Blueprint and MM a bit over the weekend. Gonna go out on a date this week (meet through a friend so, doesn’t count). Anyway, later bros.


  • Hunter
    on September 24, 2013 at 10:32 pm
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    Date didn’t go well. We were total opposites lol. Fine by me.


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 25, 2013 at 5:23 pm
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      Nice job man! As long as you hustle, you’ll end up where you aim.



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PimpinBlueStar
on September 24, 2013 at 1:58 pm
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Love this shit.

As of today (and the last year and half) I’m a successful player. Before that, I was quite unsuccessful. A wannabe player yet wasn’t able to get the results I wanted, largely because my own fear and anxiety dominated my decision making.

To all of my newb friends and guys with bad anxiety…here’s my progression journey:

Before 1.5 years, I would only get girls the old fashioned way (social circle or ones who just fell into my lap). Only 1 truly HOT one that I lost my virginity to back in high school.

Tired of the results I was getting, I decided it was time to get over my ego and start approaching. Even the thought of it made me sweat.

Almost 2 entire weeks of going to bars and to the mall, no approaches. I was scared. I envisioned the worst. I was anxiously sweating at the thought of having to carry a conversation and not knowing how to do it.

Finally did a cold approach at the grocery store. “Hey, I’m….” She smiled, said nice to meet you and walked away. I was terrified. I felt heavy, like someone through a wet burlap sack over me. I was sweating. Mumbling to the cashier as I paid on my way out.

For about 2.5 months after this was the same thing. The idea of making myself go out and talk to strangers was so painful, that I knew the only thing to do was to do it. That was the only way I would get through it.

Then, over time, the situation became familiar. Maybe a little nervous energy, but I could at least form a complete sentence.

I would get 0.01% better with every approach. After at least 500+, I was able to at least settle in and not be blown off after the first sentence for being too visibly nervous.

Despite the fact that it would have made sense at the time to approach “6′s” or “7′s”, I would do that ONLY if there weren’t hotter in my vicinity. Because let’s face it, that’s who we all really have our eyes set on first.

Those 0.01%’s begin to add up. Now I’m approaching without flinching. The girls begin to smile as they were pleasantly surprised that a guy would approach without hesitation. Maybe a decent convo ensued. End it on a number with no specific plans to meet up. Seemed like a good lead.

Then she flaked. No response to texts. Doesn’t answer calls.

Stay in the game. Approach the next one, even though the last one blew me off. This one gives me a harsh rejection. It stings a bit.

Instead of just doing my one approach, I decide to put my grocieries in the car and go walk the sidewalk. I immediately throw myself in a set of two, they have fun and I’m relaxed. Something like this wouldn’t have happened a month ago, as I would have just slumped back home with a “well, at least I did my one approach!”

Flash forward 3 months. I stuck with the game and consistent action. Now I have 3 solid leads of girls texting me “what r u up to tonite! we’re at xx bar come!” This is better than I could have imagined 6 months ago, and still not much of an accomplishment to brag about. Now I can at least go out, meet up, have some fun.

Flash forward 3 more. Process is much expidited. The girls that love me, LOVE me. The ones that hate me, definitely do. I’m more myself. I don’t care who loves me or hates me because I have plenty of social options. I’m carefree.

I’m in Vegas. I randomly meet two girls on the way to a pool party by seeing two girls walk by, saying in a black guy voice “eyyyy lil white girls” and throwing my arms around them (I’m white, they were hispanic). They giggle and love it. I tell them they are my new temporary girlfriends to the end of the walkway. They tell me they have an extra ticket to the pool party. I’m so hot, they say. If I come they will by my drinks, they say. I’m the coolest most fun guy. I make out with one of them in the line to get into the party. The other loudly proclaims that she has a real boyfriend. I high five her and tell her that’s monumental! We go to the party. In the pool, hordes of guys in groups usually of 5 or more try to take the girls. At first, they flirt and throw their arms around them, often leaving me. What do I do? Dance by myself to Calvin Harris, having fun and not caring about shit. New hot girls near me ask where my friends went, I say I don’t know I just met them. Two new ones huddle around me. I put my hands around their waist and start bouncing to the music. “He’s hotttt…” the new girl says. What’s this? The original two show back up. “Who are your new friends?” one asks. The other pulls my arm “Hey I have to tell you something!” She pulls me a bit from the other two. “I think you’re hot…” We start making out. Other girl who orginially wouldn’t kiss me in line warms up to me. Now I have two girls mugging me in front of like 1,000 people. Now they aren’t even interested in any other guys trying to come up to them. In fact, the guys just stop because it’s a hopeless situation. Big, muscle bound dudes can’t take the girls off little ole scrawny me. All because I was putting fun over trying to get results, and they were doing the opposite.

I take them back, we all bang for 30 min, I shower and have to catch a flight.

^^^This story would not have happened had I not pushed through all of the anxiety and became self accepting. It was a long journey, and sometimes it didn’t appear to have an end in sight, like things wouldn’t get better. But I had faith, I persisted, and now things like this are common.

It’s all up to you…


  • corvinus
    on September 24, 2013 at 2:49 pm
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    Nice. In my own case, I appear to be stuck between…

    Those 0.01%’s begin to add up. Now I’m approaching without flinching. The girls begin to smile as they were pleasantly surprised that a guy would approach without hesitation. Maybe a decent convo ensued. End it on a number with no specific plans to meet up. Seemed like a good lead.

    Then she flaked. No response to texts. Doesn’t answer calls.

    Stay in the game. Approach the next one, even though the last one blew me off. This one gives me a harsh rejection. It stings a bit.

    Instead of just doing my one approach, I decide to put my grocieries in the car and go walk the sidewalk. I immediately throw myself in a set of two, they have fun and I’m relaxed. Something like this wouldn’t have happened a month ago, as I would have just slumped back home with a “well, at least I did my one approach!”

    …here, and…

    Flash forward 3 months. I stuck with the game and consistent action. Now I have 3 solid leads of girls texting me “what r u up to tonite! we’re at xx bar come!” This is better than I could have imagined 6 months ago, and still not much of an accomplishment to brag about. Now I can at least go out, meet up, have some fun.

    …here. Dunno how to get girls to text me asking me to hang with them, but hopefully it’ll happen eventually.


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 24, 2013 at 4:38 pm
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      I think the reason that girls began to just want me around is that I didn’t really care if I banged them or not, and they sensed that. Girls want to make their own decisions about who they want to bang, and when I left them that space by thinking like “Hey babe, I definitely think your’e hot and I would totally be down, but I just wanna have fun, so whatever!”….then the “cream would rise to the top” aka the girls who made up their mind that they wanted to fuck, would. Otherwise, no harm no foul let’s just have good time.

      I would even go further by saying that MANY of the girls I have slept with may not have even been attracted to me when I approached them and got the number. I’ve had several, post coital, say “You know at first when you got my number I thought you were cute but not really my type.” Like, they could see I was just a social guy and wasn’t too pushy so they were willing to give the number and if we were near each other in the bar district, they would be down to meet up and say hey. What happened was I was just free and partying around them and, over time, they saw that I didn’t need anything from them, and fucked me from that alone.

      Sometimes it’s just a one-off situ, sometimes I results in a short term fuck buddy situ, and others…sex just doesn’t happen but we remain chill and in contact.

      You just never know, really. And I don’t care because I’ve had plenty come and go, 99% of what I would consider good terms. I just keep my fun #1, STEADILY approach as people are always coming in and out of my life, and let whoever ultimately chooses me, to choose me.


      • immoralgables
        on September 24, 2013 at 6:16 pm
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        PBS, Quick question. How did you attain that mentality of not wanting to bang them or not?

        I mean, if you have abundance and you just left the crib after banging a chick, yeah I could see that.

        At the same time, I always feel like I have to push my agenda somewhat because historically, not being proactive is one component of what led me to pursue PUA. Know what I’m saying? Plenty of times I kick myself for not escalating…..at the same time….some times I’ve blown up the account for escalating too soon (after being burned not doing it)

        It’s a mindfuck. Would love to hear any steps or thoughts you have to get to that point. I know fun, sociable guys like you and yeah, what you said jibes with what I’ve witnessed. If it’s a function of getting x amount of lays or doing y amount of approaches, then I’m cool with that. If it’s an innergame thing I ought to work on, well, please let a brotha know!


        • PimpinBlueStar
          on September 25, 2013 at 2:05 pm
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          That one is tough to answer but I’ll do my best here. It developed the more I approached, got experienced, and valued each individual approach (or girl) less. I recognized that by approaching, no one really knows each other yet. So let’s say I get a VERY harsh blowoff (this doesn’t really happen too often and I approach a lot), well…no harm no foul. I didn’t invest my identity in the approach, she didn’t even want a chance to know me, so no big deal to me.

          It’s almost like the game within the game. It became a test of balance: How could I go through the proper mechanics of external game (eye contact, tonality, not holding a beer to the chest, etc. all the things that are hit ad nauseum on here) while maintaining my inner emotional independence from whatever is going on around me? Am I bringing the good, positive, independent fun that people can latch onto and join? Or am I trying to latch onto the girl (the results) and get my fun from that?

          That’s what I can see from my progression outline above. I slowly became more adaptable to any situation, and could roll off anything unfavorable to me, because I didn’t invest too much. I became more free. I felt better. I didn’t have to rely on anyone or anything to make me happy.

          Which is why, in that Vegas pool story, the girls ultimately latched onto me, even if they went away with the bigger, better looking guys than me for a bit. They would always come back. I didn’t even feel a pang of loss in my gut when they would willingly throw their arms around them right in front of me, only 2 minutes later telling the same guy to leave them alone. I needed nothing from them because I was partying and had the fun inner state. The girls sensed this and kept coming back. The guys approaching and trying to “game” them needed to get pussy to have fun. I got the pussy because I was already having fun, and it was just an added element.

          The best game is no game.

          lol and my favorite part of the day was when one of the guidos who got blown off as he as in and tried to amog me with shit like “Who is this ya little brotha?!? You’re with him??”…this guy goes and tells on me to the lifeguard that me and said chick were having sex in the pool. Which was sort of true. I was fingering her and I didn’t think anyone saw. But I swear to you, the guido told on me lol.

          I hope that clears up my thoughts a bit Immoral. I’m sure I’ll have more later in the day, but for now I’ve rambled enough lol


        • PimpinBlueStar
          on September 26, 2013 at 9:56 am
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          Also, I should mention, yea I probably put off that party guy vibe a bit. Talk it up to a lot of people, hop from one to the next, have people latch onto me.

          BUT…..I’m a natural introvert lol. Seriously. It takes sometimes a LOT of warming up (like some nights maybe 15-20 approaches) before I get free flowing and talkative. Because odds are, I spent the few hours before the bar drinking beer and reading a book alone lol.


  • Anonymous
    on September 24, 2013 at 4:05 pm
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    Good read, thanks for sharing PBS.


    • immoralgables
      on September 24, 2013 at 4:21 pm
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      - Whoops, forgot to sign in.


      • PimpinBlueStar
        on September 24, 2013 at 4:39 pm
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        thanks mane!



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PimpinBlueStar
on September 24, 2013 at 1:58 pm
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Love this shit.

As of today (and the last year and half) I’m a successful player. Before that, I was quite unsuccessful. A wannabe player yet wasn’t able to get the results I wanted, largely because my own fear and anxiety dominated my decision making.

To all of my newb friends and guys with bad anxiety…here’s my progression journey:

Before 1.5 years, I would only get girls the old fashioned way (social circle or ones who just fell into my lap). Only 1 truly HOT one that I lost my virginity to back in high school.

Tired of the results I was getting, I decided it was time to get over my ego and start approaching. Even the thought of it made me sweat.

Almost 2 entire weeks of going to bars and to the mall, no approaches. I was scared. I envisioned the worst. I was anxiously sweating at the thought of having to carry a conversation and not knowing how to do it.

Finally did a cold approach at the grocery store. “Hey, I’m….” She smiled, said nice to meet you and walked away. I was terrified. I felt heavy, like someone through a wet burlap sack over me. I was sweating. Mumbling to the cashier as I paid on my way out.

For about 2.5 months after this was the same thing. The idea of making myself go out and talk to strangers was so painful, that I knew the only thing to do was to do it. That was the only way I would get through it.

Then, over time, the situation became familiar. Maybe a little nervous energy, but I could at least form a complete sentence.

I would get 0.01% better with every approach. After at least 500+, I was able to at least settle in and not be blown off after the first sentence for being too visibly nervous.

Despite the fact that it would have made sense at the time to approach “6’s” or “7’s”, I would do that ONLY if there weren’t hotter in my vicinity. Because let’s face it, that’s who we all really have our eyes set on first.

Those 0.01%’s begin to add up. Now I’m approaching without flinching. The girls begin to smile as they were pleasantly surprised that a guy would approach without hesitation. Maybe a decent convo ensued. End it on a number with no specific plans to meet up. Seemed like a good lead.

Then she flaked. No response to texts. Doesn’t answer calls.

Stay in the game. Approach the next one, even though the last one blew me off. This one gives me a harsh rejection. It stings a bit.

Instead of just doing my one approach, I decide to put my grocieries in the car and go walk the sidewalk. I immediately throw myself in a set of two, they have fun and I’m relaxed. Something like this wouldn’t have happened a month ago, as I would have just slumped back home with a “well, at least I did my one approach!”

Flash forward 3 months. I stuck with the game and consistent action. Now I have 3 solid leads of girls texting me “what r u up to tonite! we’re at xx bar come!” This is better than I could have imagined 6 months ago, and still not much of an accomplishment to brag about. Now I can at least go out, meet up, have some fun.

Flash forward 3 more. Process is much expidited. The girls that love me, LOVE me. The ones that hate me, definitely do. I’m more myself. I don’t care who loves me or hates me because I have plenty of social options. I’m carefree.

I’m in Vegas. I randomly meet two girls on the way to a pool party by seeing two girls walk by, saying in a black guy voice “eyyyy lil white girls” and throwing my arms around them (I’m white, they were hispanic). They giggle and love it. I tell them they are my new temporary girlfriends to the end of the walkway. They tell me they have an extra ticket to the pool party. I’m so hot, they say. If I come they will by my drinks, they say. I’m the coolest most fun guy. I make out with one of them in the line to get into the party. The other loudly proclaims that she has a real boyfriend. I high five her and tell her that’s monumental! We go to the party. In the pool, hordes of guys in groups usually of 5 or more try to take the girls. At first, they flirt and throw their arms around them, often leaving me. What do I do? Dance by myself to Calvin Harris, having fun and not caring about shit. New hot girls near me ask where my friends went, I say I don’t know I just met them. Two new ones huddle around me. I put my hands around their waist and start bouncing to the music. “He’s hotttt…” the new girl says. What’s this? The original two show back up. “Who are your new friends?” one asks. The other pulls my arm “Hey I have to tell you something!” She pulls me a bit from the other two. “I think you’re hot…” We start making out. Other girl who orginially wouldn’t kiss me in line warms up to me. Now I have two girls mugging me in front of like 1,000 people. Now they aren’t even interested in any other guys trying to come up to them. In fact, the guys just stop because it’s a hopeless situation. Big, muscle bound dudes can’t take the girls off little ole scrawny me. All because I was putting fun over trying to get results, and they were doing the opposite.

I take them back, we all bang for 30 min, I shower and have to catch a flight.

^^^This story would not have happened had I not pushed through all of the anxiety and became self accepting. It was a long journey, and sometimes it didn’t appear to have an end in sight, like things wouldn’t get better. But I had faith, I persisted, and now things like this are common.

It’s all up to you…


  • corvinus
    on September 24, 2013 at 2:49 pm
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    Nice. In my own case, I appear to be stuck between…

    Those 0.01%’s begin to add up. Now I’m approaching without flinching. The girls begin to smile as they were pleasantly surprised that a guy would approach without hesitation. Maybe a decent convo ensued. End it on a number with no specific plans to meet up. Seemed like a good lead.

    Then she flaked. No response to texts. Doesn’t answer calls.

    Stay in the game. Approach the next one, even though the last one blew me off. This one gives me a harsh rejection. It stings a bit.

    Instead of just doing my one approach, I decide to put my grocieries in the car and go walk the sidewalk. I immediately throw myself in a set of two, they have fun and I’m relaxed. Something like this wouldn’t have happened a month ago, as I would have just slumped back home with a “well, at least I did my one approach!”

    …here, and…

    Flash forward 3 months. I stuck with the game and consistent action. Now I have 3 solid leads of girls texting me “what r u up to tonite! we’re at xx bar come!” This is better than I could have imagined 6 months ago, and still not much of an accomplishment to brag about. Now I can at least go out, meet up, have some fun.

    …here. Dunno how to get girls to text me asking me to hang with them, but hopefully it’ll happen eventually.


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 24, 2013 at 4:38 pm
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      I think the reason that girls began to just want me around is that I didn’t really care if I banged them or not, and they sensed that. Girls want to make their own decisions about who they want to bang, and when I left them that space by thinking like “Hey babe, I definitely think your’e hot and I would totally be down, but I just wanna have fun, so whatever!”….then the “cream would rise to the top” aka the girls who made up their mind that they wanted to fuck, would. Otherwise, no harm no foul let’s just have good time.

      I would even go further by saying that MANY of the girls I have slept with may not have even been attracted to me when I approached them and got the number. I’ve had several, post coital, say “You know at first when you got my number I thought you were cute but not really my type.” Like, they could see I was just a social guy and wasn’t too pushy so they were willing to give the number and if we were near each other in the bar district, they would be down to meet up and say hey. What happened was I was just free and partying around them and, over time, they saw that I didn’t need anything from them, and fucked me from that alone.

      Sometimes it’s just a one-off situ, sometimes I results in a short term fuck buddy situ, and others…sex just doesn’t happen but we remain chill and in contact.

      You just never know, really. And I don’t care because I’ve had plenty come and go, 99% of what I would consider good terms. I just keep my fun #1, STEADILY approach as people are always coming in and out of my life, and let whoever ultimately chooses me, to choose me.


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 25, 2013 at 2:05 pm
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      That one is tough to answer but I’ll do my best here. It developed the more I approached, got experienced, and valued each individual approach (or girl) less. I recognized that by approaching, no one really knows each other yet. So let’s say I get a VERY harsh blowoff (this doesn’t really happen too often and I approach a lot), well…no harm no foul. I didn’t invest my identity in the approach, she didn’t even want a chance to know me, so no big deal to me.

      It’s almost like the game within the game. It became a test of balance: How could I go through the proper mechanics of external game (eye contact, tonality, not holding a beer to the chest, etc. all the things that are hit ad nauseum on here) while maintaining my inner emotional independence from whatever is going on around me? Am I bringing the good, positive, independent fun that people can latch onto and join? Or am I trying to latch onto the girl (the results) and get my fun from that?

      That’s what I can see from my progression outline above. I slowly became more adaptable to any situation, and could roll off anything unfavorable to me, because I didn’t invest too much. I became more free. I felt better. I didn’t have to rely on anyone or anything to make me happy.

      Which is why, in that Vegas pool story, the girls ultimately latched onto me, even if they went away with the bigger, better looking guys than me for a bit. They would always come back. I didn’t even feel a pang of loss in my gut when they would willingly throw their arms around them right in front of me, only 2 minutes later telling the same guy to leave them alone. I needed nothing from them because I was partying and had the fun inner state. The girls sensed this and kept coming back. The guys approaching and trying to “game” them needed to get pussy to have fun. I got the pussy because I was already having fun, and it was just an added element.

      The best game is no game.

      lol and my favorite part of the day was when one of the guidos who got blown off as he as in and tried to amog me with shit like “Who is this ya little brotha?!? You’re with him??”…this guy goes and tells on me to the lifeguard that me and said chick were having sex in the pool. Which was sort of true. I was fingering her and I didn’t think anyone saw. But I swear to you, the guido told on me lol.

      I hope that clears up my thoughts a bit Immoral. I’m sure I’ll have more later in the day, but for now I’ve rambled enough lol


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 26, 2013 at 9:56 am
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      Also, I should mention, yea I probably put off that party guy vibe a bit. Talk it up to a lot of people, hop from one to the next, have people latch onto me.

      BUT…..I’m a natural introvert lol. Seriously. It takes sometimes a LOT of warming up (like some nights maybe 15-20 approaches) before I get free flowing and talkative. Because odds are, I spent the few hours before the bar drinking beer and reading a book alone lol.


  • Anonymous
    on September 24, 2013 at 4:05 pm
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    Good read, thanks for sharing PBS.


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 24, 2013 at 4:39 pm
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      thanks mane!



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on September 17, 2013 at 9:41 am
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I felt the same feeling watching that around wall-hittin’ time that I do when UFC fighters are about to break someone’s arm.



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on September 17, 2013 at 9:41 am
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I felt the same feeling watching that around wall-hittin’ time that I do when UFC fighters are about to break someone’s arm.



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burke
on September 16, 2013 at 7:46 am
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“Think along the lines of filling her ear with an innocent story from your past, a story about an illicit liaison that stayed quiet because you could be trusted.”

you can gain a reputation as a ‘trustworthy’ cheat partner. girls talk, but if you don’t, ever– and then i assume if you get some positive buzz on performance– they will seriously relax the resistance they feel about being found out as a slut.

so i think this approach is just right. don’t be too “it’ll be our secret” it’s more along the lines of “my business is my business”. you know the attitude though so you’re probably fine. just need opportunity.


  • YaReally
    on September 16, 2013 at 10:43 am
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    This.

    Don’t tell her details about fucking her friend or any other girls, keep everything in vague terms. ie – you can talk about loving to throat-fuck girls, but you don’t say “I love throat-fucking BFF, she’s such a kinky bitch”

    And like burke says, don’t make it a coaxing/begging “it’ll be our secret” thing. It’s just your biz is your biz, you don’t share details with people. She’ll extrapolate that it’s safe.

    From there CH has the formula down. I would add in 2 weeks of radio silence before arranging a situation where you’re both together, ideally at a party of some sort, where you have the logistics to isolate her and escalate.

    A girls biggest fear is judgement.

    The txting was solid btw. Well done and way to push your comfort zone. We all had to do the same at some point lol


    • Lucky White Male
      on September 16, 2013 at 11:28 am
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      Why the 2 wks of radio silence, wouldn’t you want to arrange the isolation as soon as possible to take advantage of her horniness


      • YaReally
        on September 16, 2013 at 9:22 pm
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        Because she’s not ACTUALLY horny. I think a lot of people don’t get that lol

        She’s just talking about sex because he’s set the frame that it’s okay. I think a lot of guys here probably don’t go very sexual with girls so they haven’t seen a girl talk like this. It’s just a validation trap. She wants him to think she’s horny so he’ll go “okay let’s meet up!!” and then she gets his validation. She won’t ACTUALLY let him come over and fuck her or anything.

        This is a really common trap, especially with hot girls, and most guys fall for it, including myself until I started recognizing it. It doesn’t mean they’re sluts or horny or even fucking anyone in general. I know girls who will be like “I’m sooo horny I want your cock so bad babe :( :( ” and as soon as I txt back “where you at?”, they go radio silent and the next day they’re all “sorry babe my phone died, I really wanted to see you :( :( ” And then you go “okay let’s hang out Wednesday.” “okay!! god I can’t wait, I want to fuck you so bad!” And then Wednesday comes and she “falls asleep” and flakes.

        It goes on and on and on until you do something to completely fuck with her world and the validation conveyor belt you’ve helped her set up: like ignore her completely. :)


        • PimpinBlueStar
          on September 17, 2013 at 9:44 am
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          This is a great observation that I haven’t seen anyone point out yet.



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on September 12, 2013 at 9:22 am
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Negging is a dumb word. It’s just teasing. I’ve been doing it since I was 12, and have an inborn natural talent at it. And yes, it made young teenage girls get crushes on me. If you don’t have any talent at it, it’s really not going to work. I don’t know how anyone can develop a natural spontaneous wit. I’ll say this, though: when you are witty then you are often a cause of wit in others.


  • YaReally
    on September 12, 2013 at 11:12 am
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    “If you don’t have any talent at it, it’s really not going to work. I don’t know how anyone can develop a natural spontaneous wit.”

    Nah, you can learn it. It’s a lot easier for guys who grow up teasing girls (like guys with multiple sisters etc), but anyone can learn it. That’s why there are books on comedy and improv classes and shit. It’s just hard and can take a long time and the path is full of a ton of awkward embarrassing interactions until you get better at it lol


    • Bob Wallace
      on September 12, 2013 at 1:26 pm
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      “Nah, you can learn it.”

      I have seen guys make incredible fools of themselves trying to learn it. In college I saw a guy in the library sit down at a table I was at and said to the girl sitting there, “What’s the story, morning glory?” He honestly said that. I think I looked at him with my mouth open. Then he got defensive and said, “It’s the only way I know to talk to girls.”

      I looked at her and said, “I looked at you and had a spontaneous physical reaction.” She sort of giggled and looked down. Then I added, “I didn’t say what kind of reaction it was.” She looked confused and maybe a little angry.

      I said to him, “That’s how you do it.”

      It was completely spontaneous on my part and his was completely rehearsed.


      • Scray
        on September 12, 2013 at 1:52 pm
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        10 bucks says you were just better looking than the other guy. Case closed. File under: things passively high value men think count as ‘wit.’


        • Bob Wallace
          on September 12, 2013 at 3:42 pm
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          I’m not handsome. But the basis of “negging” is having confidence in yourself.

          I’ll tell you one thing: you tease women and they are either going to like you or hate you. So if you want to practice having some women hate you, you’d better have a damn thick skin.


          • PimpinBlueStar
            on September 12, 2013 at 6:17 pm
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            “I’ll tell you one thing: you tease women and they are either going to like you or hate you”

            Tell me another thing!



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on September 11, 2013 at 9:31 am
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“Oboy, here come the eBadass crew, ready to throw down at a friendly fun house party because someone people like in their social circle dared to tool them in a friendly fun (if annoying) way.”

Big difference though between friend and guys you don’t or barely know. AMOG the competition, fuck around with friends.

““nooo!!! I’m pretending to be don draper don’t ruin it for me :( :( :( my hair is messed now I don’t look like him o no!!!!”

Laughed so hard.

Yeah short man syndrome is a bitch for some guys. They try to overcompensate. I’m really starting to see that the master key is just be ‘cool’. I don’t know to accurately describe it’s like not giving a fuck but at the same time looking to win. What I know it isn’t is trying to be exactly like James Bond or George Clooney or something because most people that do are adopting the externals without having any clue about the reasons why those characters act that way, so it can only even work a little when all the stars and moons a line.

Also a big factor I think is to give up hating and not in the external sense such as actions and words but in your own mind. I think that’s fucked me up in the past and I’m letting that go because all these people really are insignificant. Hating and getting mad especially about the past simply makes those people relevant when they should even a bit of importance. The greatest power you can have over any person is the ability to ignore them.

For example Feminists. For the recent past, I would just get angry at feminism and every where I looked I saw white knights, manginas, masculine women, and feminist ideology and it made my head explode. The conclusion that I have come to know is that most people (men and women) just aren’t that cool nor will they ever be. It’s damaging to get upset about losers being losers. SWPL beta males are going to act like SWPL beta males and most girls are going to be vapid, petty and conceited. If you accept people for what they are and know they don’t have any real individual power, you will have a better time in this world. Just be glad you aren’t one of them.


  • YaReally
    on September 11, 2013 at 11:25 am
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    “Yeah short man syndrome is a bitch for some guys.”

    This is another branch of what I’m trying to describe here. Short man who’s insecure: people fuck with his height constantly, it frustrates him, he reacts, and they keep doing it. Short man who bases his self-worth internally: people don’t fuck with his height as often, and if they do he doesn’t give a fuck and they get no reaction and feel dumb for even TRYING to tool him on it, and they stop.

    This all comes down to “what are you insecure about? What external things do you base your self-worth on?”

    Someone like myself, who’s good at AMOG’ing, will find whatever you’re insecure about and poke you with it, if I need to fuck with you. I’m watching how you react to everything and testing you based on field experience of dealing with thousands of guys, where are you likely to be insecure? Are you short? Ya, but you carry yourself well, and I heard you tool some other guy who made fun of your height…so you’re probably not insecure about that. Are you balding? Nah, you shaved your head, so I guess I can’t make fun of that. How about your clothes? oooo, you’ve put a LOT of time into your clothes. That looks like a custom-tailored suit. I bet it was expensive. I bet you wear it out every time you go out because you think you’re James Bond. Let’s test how secure you are…”wow man, that’s a nice suit. Kind of overdressed for this bar tho aren’t you? lol girls what do you think of my new buddy here? I told him a suit is a little much for this place but he looks good. You want to fuck him, don’t you? Fuck, all you girls are about money and shit. You must get so much pussy hey dude? Are you an investment banker or something? lol”

    If you’re basing your worth on your expensive custom-tailored suit, you’ll start worrying that maybe you’re over-dressed for the place, or be embarrassed to have the spotlight on your suit, etc. God forbid if I see you out again and you DON’T have the suit on and I can bring up stuff like “aw man, where’s your suit? Girls you should’ve seen this guy’s suit last week, it was awesome. Well, this is alright too, can’t dress up nice every day, right? You girls would still fuck him, right?”

    If you don’t actually give a shit about your suit, and your self-worth is based internally, you’ll laugh all of that off, agree & amplify it, or just give off a vibe in general where, like being short or balding, I can instinctively tell you’re not basing your worth on it, so there’s no point in trying to tool you on it.

    This is allllllllll just retarded monkeys flinging poo at eachother shit, and I avoid getting involved in it at ALL, because I like to spread positive vibes and shit…but this is how the dynamic/mechanic works, and the consistent principle underneath it all.

    “What I know it isn’t is trying to be exactly like James Bond or George Clooney or something because most people that do are adopting the externals without having any clue about the reasons why those characters act that way, so it can only even work a little when all the stars and moons a line.”

    This. This is the vibe in the OP’s writing. “I’m acting like Don Draper, but people aren’t treating me like Don Draper. :( ” Fuck your Don Draper self-image. Shave your head or go out with shitty hair and game for a few months.

    “Hating and getting mad especially about the past simply makes those people relevant when they should even a bit of importance. The greatest power you can have over any person is the ability to ignore them.”

    All good stuff, what you’re saying here. Solid internal game mentality.

    “SWPL beta males are going to act like SWPL beta males and most girls are going to be vapid, petty and conceited. If you accept people for what they are and know they don’t have any real individual power, you will have a better time in this world. Just be glad you aren’t one of them.”

    This. In a way, learning game and about the red pill gives you a sort of omnipotence, like you understand other people and what they’re thinking and why they’re thinking it, and you’re looking down on them from above…like watching an ant farm. A lot of what they do seems silly, but none of it really affects you in the long-run. They’re just doing the best with what they’ve been given and don’t know better.

    This is when you start to be able to accept and love women (and friends/family/etc. even the asshole AMOG) despite their flaws. You learn to find the beauty in other people when you accept them for who they are instead of getting frustrated that they aren’t who you want them to be.

    It’s very freeing, and people feel the vibe of non-judgement off you.


    • PimpinBlueStar
      on September 11, 2013 at 4:04 pm
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      Yea, really, this was good.

      I am a short sexy slut-puppy, and I guess that my version of what you’re saying is: NO ONE is gonna stop me from having my fun. Whenever some “natural” does attempt to out-alpha me directly, I usually pause, look at him and then go “DURKA DURR!!” then throw my hands up to the music. Usually the response is to look at me and think I’m so retarded that they don’t know how to deal with me, so then they look at the girl like “this dude is SO NOT COOL at all what a joke!” To which if I just stay non reactive, it looks like he’s trying harder and she comes back to me.

      But….all of that direct AMOG shit doesn’t happen much tho. I guess because I don’t really care at all. If people don’t think they can make you care, like your’e saying, they usually can sense it and won’t even try. Because there’s nothing worse than trying to make someone look bad and bombing.



PimpinBlueStar
on September 11, 2013 at 10:52 am
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You’re not your hair.



Dslap
on September 11, 2013 at 5:25 pm
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YaReally has great advice, but his taunting trying to get after your insecurity move likely would result in a knockout from most of my friends (it makes me want to slap him reading it), the attempt to attack a guy like that can easily come off try-hard and clownish. And no, wanting to slap the guy up the head for acting like that doesn’t mean they are insecure about what you are saying, it can mean you’re annoying as F when you come off like that. But of course, I think he’d pick his targets wisely.

Still props to the inner game talk.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 11, 2013 at 11:24 pm
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    lol. He may be “annoying as F” to the guys, but to the girls it’s hilarious because the dude relying on the muscle/cool guy image who claims to get a lot of chicks is suddenly caught with his pants around his ankles, not knowing how to respond to a novel situation. Whereas, the guy who knows how to play the mind games is calm and fluid in the moment, not flustered with “I”M gonna fuck you up!!!!” emotions, which rarely if ever would your friends ever act on. Be real. Unless they’re really threatened like dude is in his face, fist clinched telling you to “say one more thing”….you’re not gonna do shit.



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I went out last night, and it’s clear that while I’m definitely better than I was a couple years ago, there are a few things I have no clue about.

1) How do you meet up with girls and their posse beforehand and go out without sounding too beta? Or am I not supposed to do that, since being in their posse makes you count as a beta orbiter? Some guys insist that if you’re alpha, you always ask the girl to meet you one-on-one, and lots of other guys even refuse to ask girls out on weekends.

2) How do you hook up with girls you actually meet out and about? I’m not bad at chatting up girls, but the reason I ask Question 1 is because they almost always end up going home with the group they came with, and said group is almost always their girlfriends and/or beta orbiters. I very rarely get numbers while drunk on Friday nights; I almost always get numbers of girls through day game.

This is a rather dumb Catch-22, but it’s been bugging me for months, and I’d really appreciate any tips.


  • PimpinBlueStar
    on September 8, 2013 at 9:02 pm
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    1) Show up an hour later than you orginally said you would meet up. 15 min before you get to the venue text her “paarty time yea” and text like ya just don’t care.

    2) It sorta helps if you can be the fun one of the group, like if “fun” were gasoline in a car, girls will usually ride it out till the tank is empty. It can be tough to pry away a girl from her group, but the more you can isolate a few at a time, the better your odds. Make it your mission to lead them to the fun if the current place you’re at is sort of a lull, like a sweet ass karaoke bar around the corner. Better if the group breaks off where you can finally work your girl while her two friends get chatted up by some other dudes, who on the surface probably seem alpha until they start laughing too hard at what she says and offers to buy her a drink.