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A Short List Of Street Openers

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Anonymous
on February 29, 2012 at 3:46 pm
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Yareally’s openers are bombastic. No wonder he ends up shitting on girls.
I don’t think a lot of chicks can resist the vibe in the made-up directions opener.

Married/LTR guys should be allowed to lock up and handcuff their women.


  • maya
    on February 29, 2012 at 3:52 pm
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    “Yareally’s openers are bombastic. No wonder he ends up shitting on girls.”

    True. His ideas would definitely work with me! (I wouldn’t let him shit on me of course but I’d fall in love with him a little)


    • YaReally
      on February 29, 2012 at 4:40 pm
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      Careful, that’s the first step.



What Do Women Want? A Master

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on February 27, 2012 at 5:27 pm
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Submissive girls like to be dominated because they’re submissive. Dominant girls like to be dominated because it’s so rare that a man CAN dominate them.

My natural buddy and I have done some pretty fucked up things to girls both in and out of the bedroom, just to see what we can get away with. It would blow most people’s minds what girls will do when you’re congruent with leading them.

The congruency is the key. Chicks will test to see if you’re full of shit or not. But if you’re congruent with being their master, to your core, the floodgates open. A big part of it is 1) understanding that women are sexual creatures and 2) not judging them for it.

I have literally shit on a girl lol and that’s not the worst thing I’ve done. It’s pretty hard to take the uppity “treat me like a lady and consider my opinion” types seriously after you’ve crossed certain lines lol and they can sense that.


  • YaReally
    on February 27, 2012 at 5:31 pm
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    Read My Secret Garden and the follow-up Forbidden Flowers by Nancy Friday. MSG should pretty much be required reading for men once they get to a point with their game where they can actually pick up girls and fuck them.

    Reading it before that point would probably just fuck them up and make them weird…”heres my cold read: I bet you want to get fucked by a dog don’t you” lol



What Do Women Want? A Master

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Zweihander
on February 27, 2012 at 10:59 pm
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Somewhat relevant to the topic–I have a conundrum about what to do with this absolute knockout that I’m trying to get with. Backstory first: we’ve already gone out on a lunch date due to our schedules at night not lining up. She’s clearly interested as well based on what she’s said and how she’s acted around me. Also, very relevant she’s got a kid. I actually had requested Mon. night off so we could go to a nice Italian restaurant and hopefully seal the deal. But Sun when I texted to see if she was still a go this is how it went down–

Me: Plan for mon. 7pm, dress casual attire. Then drinks afterwards. Sound good?

Her: I’ll have my son on Mon. And he’s horribly, horribly sick. Which blows because I love, love, love, love .

Me: Sorry about that, I hope the little guy gets better soon. will always be there.

What she texts next caught me completely off guard and I wasn’t sure how to reply, here it is–

Her: I literally just got covered in vomit. Covered. FUCKing soaked

At this point I’m wondering what the hell she means by this. I think there’s a reason that she capitalized “fuck” and that her son being sick is a shit test, so I say this–

Me: Can take a hint. I work til 10. After that, your place?

Her: Um, I live with my parent so I’m saying that’s a no go. I moved back home…(rest not relevant)

Me: Gotcha. Yet, ya didn’t say I misread you. There’s my place, and I have drinks.

Her: Which would be great except that I have an absolutely horribly sick son that needs me.

Alright, here’s where I think I made a mistake but still can’t be entirely sure–

Me: True, I remember. Didn’t mean to come off as a douche. Just when the day is good, want to be clear. I want you.

Her: Sure.

Fortunately she still texted me back and didn’t tell me to “fuck off,” so that’s at least not bad. But “sure” is cryptic. I don’t know if it’s a good “sure” or a bad “sure” without context. After that, I didn’t reply and still haven’t yet. I’m thinking that now since I’ve just proclaimed my interest I need to back off and not contact her for a while. I need to let her rationalization hamster kick in and do the work.

What are your thoughts on it? Feel free to tell me what I could’ve said better, but please be civil about it.

[heartiste: lunch date: BAD. texting: BAD. you sound the whole time like you're chasing her around the block, digging for a positive reply. she lost interest, that's what the 'sure' means.
honestly, why are you even bothering with a single mom? treat them like the low value women they are. when i hear a chick has a kid (it's happened a couple of times) i fuck her a few times and then bolt.
anyhow, if you insist on bagging this damaged trophy, i'd start by not contacting her for a couple weeks, then "accidentally" send her a CH patented non sequitur text along the lines of "and then the look on your face!" she'll most likely reply, at which point you say "woops, that's was meant for someone else".]


  • YaReally
    on February 28, 2012 at 4:24 pm
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    “At this point I’m wondering what the hell she means by this.”

    She means the sick son she told you about just puked all over her because he’s sick like she just told you. She was trying to share what’s up on her end so you guys could still txtually “hang out” together and shoot the shit all night because she liked you. All she wanted was to show she’s still interested even tho she had to cancel and you could’ve built a nice little bonding-thru-her-suffering here by cracking some jokes and being normal.

    “I think there’s a reason that she capitalized “fuck” and that her son being sick is a shit test, so I say this–”

    Wow no edit undo undo!!! And this is where you obliterated yourself lol I mean good on you for plowing but she had no idea you read her writing fuck as meaning she wanted to fuck because, well, that’s crazy. “I’m not falling for this restraining order shit-test, she wants me!!!”

    Sometimes things aren’t shit-tests. But good on ya for trying. You plowed nicely, you were just pointed in the wrong direction and were the bull charging thru the china shop instead of around it.

    For the future: generally when a girl flakes for a BS reason she won’t txt you during it. ie – you’ll be at the restaraunt and she won’t be there and the next day you’ll get a “lol sorry fell asleep” txt or before the date she’ll txt “sorry can’t make it sick :( ” and when you txt back “k we can reschedule, feel better” you won’t get any response beyond a “thx” or if you DO, at that’s at like 4pm, you won’t get any txts from her at 9pm. If she txts during when your date was and is like “ugh my stomache hurts so much” (or my kid puked on me), her excuse is legit and that’s her way of letting you know she really did want to meet up.

    Heartiste is spot-on with this one tho, you made yourself look super unattractive to her with this mess lol



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YaReally
on February 27th, 2012 at 5:53 pm
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“The most straightforward prediction that follows is that women seeking short-term mates, when the man’s only contribution to offspring is genetic, should prefer muscularity more than women seeking long-term mates.”

Ahhh “scientific studies”, how I love thee.

That’s why world leaders have always been super buff Schwartneggers, all guys with muscles rule every other guy around them (there definitely aren’t any muscular beta guys out there standing on death row at the bar or fading into the background around more charismatic alpha smaller guys), and cultures with slavery didn’t involve fat old dudes ruling over buff slaves doing manual labor all day.

Muscles aren’t the attribute girls look for in a short term “I have a beta all lined up, now I just want a baby with good genes to make him raise” hookup. An alpha guy with alpha genes makes muscular guys his subordinates and in the case of politics makes them literally pledge and give their lives for the protection and survival of their alpha superior. Women instinctively understand this, that’s why they fuck Russell Brand instead of his big bodyguard.


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YaReally
on February 28th, 2012 at 4:36 pm
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You don’t HAVE two guys with equal game. That’s the point you’re missing when you mentally masturbate your hypothetical scenarios that don’t happen in the real world.

In any interaction one person is ALWAYS reacting to the other person. It might be 90:10, it might be 49:51, and it can fluctuate throughout the interaction or in different environments etc, but one person is always reacting to the other. That’s why your question is retarded.

Go out more.


YaReally
on February 28th, 2012 at 4:41 pm
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Good point. We all know that being AMOG’ed once neutralizes the hundreds of lays a guy has had. And being shot down or rejected at any point means you have no game since real master don juans never lose a set and fuck anything they look at!

Seriously, is this even a game blog anymore? Or a support group for guys who don’t want to go out and interact with the real world? Let’s all just pat eachother on the back and stay in our safe bubble of imagination where we know we totally COULD get all those SHB10s if we wanted to.


YaReally
on February 28th, 2012 at 4:46 pm
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He was getting laid a fuckton before he was famous. Do some research. Or go out. Into that real world thing that’s super scary and has bears in it and make friends with some naturals and watch them tearing down pussy left and right. Then work your way into higher value social circles and watch natural guys taking girls off rich good-looking local celebrity types.

Or continue to stick your head in the sand to protect your fragile views of social dynamics. At least you won’t have to leave your computer chair and interact with other people!


Looks Count

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YaReally
on February 25th, 2012 at 10:27 pm
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Jesus. Where to even begin.

“The first thing most men who were previously out of shape will tell you is the marked increase in attention they receive from women after they got in shape. This is perhaps the simplest experiment that puts the lie to this assertion.*”

fucking brilliant. Case closed. The attraction the guys get DEFINITELY isn’t from:

- their increased confidence they exude
- the better body language they have now that they aren’t shuffling fat around
- the obvious increase in love for themselves and their body they have
- the fact that it shows that they’re a man who can set and achieve goals and has determination and willpower
- the way that they’re not ashamed to make eye contact anymore because they don’t feel people are judging them as worthless
- the fact that they are so socially conditioned to believe that looks matter that being in shape they literally convince themselves that logically of COURSE girls should be attracted to them. And what do we call that? “assume attraction”. Core concept. “what you feel she feels”.

This is such a dumb argument I can’t even believe its still going on, let alone written authoritatively to further fuck men up. Why not just tell them to go get money and a 6-pack and surgery to gain a few inches of height? Because there are definitely no cases of rich good looking tall guys who can’t get laid. Except oh no wait, there are a ton. Go out and spend time in rich social circles and watch the depressing shitshow.

Here’s the concept: if you believe to your core that having your lucky dime, your cool dragon shirt, your 6-pack, etc makes you attractive to women then when you don’t have those things you will not be attractive to them because you will not believe you are attractive since youve created the formula.

If you obtain those things, then you become attractive to women. The dime, shirt, 6-pack are not attractive themselves. It’s what they do to your internal psyche and how they change your subcommunications.

If you take someone who thinks the dragon shirt is pimp and let him wear it, he feels pimp an his subcommunications change to reflect that, which changes how girls respond to him. Cue any drunk jock frat boy who thinks his retarded hat costume toga thing etc are pimp.

If you put that same item on a nerd who thinks it’s stupid and dumb or has no value, nothing will change.

This is perfectly fine. If you value looks a ton, go get a 6-pack, it will help you. But what will you base your confidence on when you lose some teeth in a fight or get old or get busy with work and can’t maintain your 7% body fat? Oh shit, it’s gone. Cause you base your worth on external things instead of the actuality which is that you are enough.


YaReally
on February 26th, 2012 at 1:54 pm
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P.S. surf the bodybuilding.com forums Misc and Relationship sections and read posts by the Forever Aloners. Fucktons of guys who look better than any of us commenters here will ever look in our lives, who can’t get girls. Some of them make a shitload of money too.

There are guys there who are like “man at 8% body fat I wasn’t getting looks from any girls. But at 7% wow they all love me!!!”. Do you really think girls all over can tell the difference between 7 and 8 % bodyfat? And suddenly the 1% difference makes their ginas all tingle? Or do you think maybe the guys didn’t like themselves at 8% so they convinced themselves there were no looks coming their way and talked themselves out of it the way an AFC will talk himself out of noticing a girl’s IOI’s because he doesn’t think he’s attractive enough to get them, and when he likes himself more his reticular activation system picks up on the signals more and believes he deserves them?

No, you’re right, better hit the gym and get rid of this gut I’ve had since I started gaming and have taken girls off better looking guys routinely. Shit, my main wingman is a 6’4″ natural with a 6-pack and I can take girls from him when my game is tight. I fisted a girl the other night after taking her to a McDonalds and making her pay for my cheeseburger meal.

Anyone here purposely gained a bunch of weight and then approached girls already talking to really good looking rich guys to try to take them? Anyone? Anyone here gone out purposely unshowered with messy hair and dirty dressed-down clothes and still confidently approached the hottest girls in the club? Anyone here told girls you work at McDonalds when they ask what you do for a living? Anyone here told girls you still live with your parents at 30+?

Shit like this is why the “DJ”s are way behind in pickup tech. Too concerned with not getting rejected and protecting the “I’m like James Bond” ego to really push the limits and see what’s possible.


Looks Count

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YaReally
on February 27th, 2012 at 10:20 am
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The moment you start talking about scientific studies is the moment you advertise that you don’t go out and pick up regularly.

I’m sure for a desperate 3rd world import chick, money is enough to make her fake being into you to get her greencard…I mean, that’s your situ isn’t it?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2088767/G-spot-scientists-60-years.html

“Scientific studies” say there’s no G-Spot too. The chick I fucked a few days ago who left my bedsheets drenched while we were literally sitting in pools of her squirting, would probably disagree.

Maybe she was just super turned on because I took her to a McDonald’s and made her pay for our food, clearly displaying my millions of dollars.

Maybe it was the super sexy 6-pack abs I have hidden under my big hairy beer belly.

Or maybe you’re still a keyboard jockey who should go out more before you start spouting your bullshit advice as fact and fucking with guys who look at these blogs for help improving their lives.


Direct Vs Indirect Street Game

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Tmason
on February 24, 2012 at 5:29 pm
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I would like to know from the community here a more general question; I know Heartiste has mentioned resources on game before but in general where is the best place to go for the latest pickup techniques? Not talking about the beginner resources but to find out the new changing techniques in the field that is producing results.

I use the fastseduction.com’s forums but are there better places that lays things out for you?

Thanks.


  • YaReally
    on February 26, 2012 at 4:03 pm
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    http://www.rsdnation.com/articles/all

    Watch every video and article in that archive.

    RSD is at the forefront of pickup tech. Tyler still runs bootcamps personally and goes out 7 nights a week. Other PUA communities are either stagnant running 2004 level game or are barely making breakthrus that RSD has already expanded upon long ago.

    Skip the RSD forums though, they’re a bunch of socially uncalibrated kids bickering keyboard jockey theory.

    And for the love of god stay away from the SoSuave forums. That group (which it looks like is heavily manosphere associated unfortunately) is just a watered down version of pickup by guys scared to really push the envelope. It’s like the McDojos of martial arts.



Direct Vs Indirect Street Game

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on February 26, 2012 at 2:29 pm
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“Direct game would theoretically work best on impulsive and, yes, dumber girls who better appreciate the stark boldness of an assertive man.”

Wow. Did I really just read that on the Chateau? And the Looks Do Matter post over at Rollo’s…wtf happened, did the Jezebel writers take over the manosphere blogs this weekend? What’s next? “make sure you only go for the same day lay with girls at the bar because they’re sluts and quality girls won’t put out that fast”? “negs only work on stupid insecure girls”? “all that game stuff might work on those young college girls but it’d never work on a mature intellectual girl like my co-worker i have one-itis for Janice!”

Jesus.

What kind of game do you think every guy is running on the 10 as she goes about her day? Indirect game. Because the genius at the convenience store, the grocery store, the guy serving her McDonalds, the guy asking her for the time, the guy asking her for directions, the guy making small talk on the bus, the bus driver, they’re all fucking geniuses who’ve figured out a way to talk to her without risking rejection. A confident guy who basically says flat out “hey, you’re hot. I deserve you. Now show me why you’re worth my time beyond your looks.” is fucking refreshing.

Why? Because all the indirect guys are full of shit, pretending not to want her. The direct guy is congruent and acting in line with his desires. He’s confident enough to risk rejection but he expects NOT to be rejected. That’s the kind of guy who’s secure and confident enough to handle dating a 10.

That said, I like indirect game for the day time. Why? Because it ends up in the same place as direct game when you do it right. Most guys doing indirect game suck ass. They ask for directions then talk about stupid shit for 20 minutes and then make a gay-ass shopping buddy date with the girl or ask for her Facebook. If they ever finally get the girl alone its like surprise, I have a penis!!! And the girl goes “wtf?? I thought you were my buddy!!”

If you go indirect, you should be doing indirect with a purpose. You should be looking for opportunities to escalate and lead the interaction to sex right from “how do I get to Place?”. Yes, even in the daytime. Drop innuendo, qualify her then state your interest, push for her # and going out for drinks not her Facebook and her helping you go shopping.

So indirect game should become direct game as soon as possible. The major difference is that you’re going in uninterested until she qualifies herself beyond her looks, then flooring the gas. VS at night where the girls are already asking to be qualified by their looks just by going out dressed up. Or VS shitty indirect game where you never floor the gas and you brag to all your buddies that you totally picked up this super HB10+++++ when in reality she’ll probably flake on you because she needs cock not another “buddy” and you’ll txt her for months and invite her out and flirt on Facebook and feel like the pimp but will never actually put your P in her V because instead of treating her like you’d treat an ugly chick you feel you deserve, you put her up on an indirect game pedestal. I’ve got a buddy who photographs models and he’s always showing us pics of the girls he’s photographing and acting like he’s a pimp for “knowing” these hotties. I just ask him “so have you fucked her yet?” the answer is always no. And he never will. But he’s happy enough with the validation of hanging around them, he doesn’t care about actual jizz on her face results.

What’s the difference between day game and night game? The sun is out.

[heartiste: i am chastened! nonetheless, here's my main concern with direct day game: i think direct approaches -- and by direct i mean openers where you tell the girl in so many words that you like her look, style, or vibe and wanted to meet her -- means it's going to wind up being more of a numbers game, with more outright rejections expected up front based on the man's looks, body language, clothes, or whatever. indirect day game, by contrast, is the more "game"-centric type of approach, since it relies less on a few instant attractions and more on building attraction with the women you approach.
am i making sense here, or am i off-base? i'm willing to concede on this impression, because my day game is/has been mostly indirect. i don't do many TRUE direct day game approaches, at least in the sense that i identify directness.
anyhow, after perusing krauser's day game vids and FRs -- and he's a self-described direct day gamer -- i've come to the conclusion that the direct vs indirect dichotomy is misleading. krauser, for instance, runs what i would call plausibly deniable direct game. in one vid i watched, he approaches the girl from behind, stops her when he reaches her, and says "excuse me, may i tell you something?"... he doesn't wait for her to answer before continuing... "you were walking by just there with a reeeeeally serious expression on your face". now is that direct or indirect? it's certainly not asking for directions, but neither is it effusing about her cuteness and how he had to meet her. of course, she's not stupid. she knows on a subconscious level as soon as the convo opened that he went up to her because he'd like to eventually fuck her. but plausibly deniable direct game means that you, the man, aren't risking an immediate rejection with a blatantly sexual/complimentary/flattering opener. you're showing more direct interest than the schlub asking for directions, but less interest than the don juan mooning over her exotic beauty.
anyhow, i'm gonna hit the resources again because i think this concept of direct vs indirect is being underserved by the community. it's confusing a lot of guys and some basic premises need to be hammered out.]


  • YaReally
    on February 27, 2012 at 10:06 am
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    I think the problem is that different people picture direct being different things. Guys who don’t do direct just picture the cartoon character version where you chase the girl down, shout “YOU’RE SO HOT I HAD TO SAY HI.” and then stand there staring at her until she goes “omg I just creamed my pants, here’s my phone number call me asap so we can have sex!!!”

    The reality is that instead of:

    “Hey, hold up, I thought you were cute and had to say hello.”
    “Oh, uhhh…hi?”
    “Ya I like your dress…the color really brings out your eyes.”
    “…okay…”
    “So uhh…want to go out sometime?”

    It’s more:

    “YOU. Who ARE you? (breaking rapport (accusing) tone, as if she’s not supposed to be there doing whatever she’s doing)”
    “Oh, uhh, I’m Sally?”
    “Well Sally, I saw you from across the room and had to come say hello. I think we’re going to have to have a million babies together.”
    “omg lol umm no thanks lol”
    “Alright, then we’ll start with coffee instead.”
    etc.

    The difference is basically that the way people picture direct game and the way a lot of newbies run direct game, they throw out a compliment then just sit there and wait for a reaction from the girl. That’s where it becomes a numbers game, she either likes you or doesn’t. Most of the time the girl is thinking “ooookay….? Thanks? What am I supposed to respond to that?” because the guy is putting the onus on her to lead things.

    The way to be running direct is to follow-up your statements of interest with statements, observations, cold-reads, teasing, questions, etc. That whole “game” thing we all love.

    A solid method that disarms with indirect but instantly switches to direct would be something like:

    “Hey, how do I get to Place?”
    “oh, umm I think it’s 2 blocks that way and then turn–”
    “lol I don’t actually need directions. I just thought you were cute and wanted to come flirt with you. Who are you?”
    “omg lol ummm Sally omg”
    “I haven’t seen you around here before Sally, you must be (cold read, teasing, etc.)”
    etc.

    For what I was talking about, where guys run indirect game with no purpose to it, here’s an off the top of my head example of indirect game WITH PURPOSE (ie – everything said and done is said and done with the goal of progressing things towards the close):

    “Hey, how do I get to Place?”
    “oh, umm I think it’s 2 blocks that way and then turn–”
    “It sounds like you’re just making that up.” (accusation/teasing)
    “lol no I just–”
    “If you don’t know, you can just say so. Why are you messing with poor lost strangers who just need help? You MONSTER.” (teasing, accusing, cold-reading)
    “omg!! lol no I’m not I was–”
    “No, it’s too late, I hate you now. But I’m willing to let you make it up to me over drinks sometime. You free this weekend?” (push/pull, pushing for the close)
    “well I have a boyfriend!”
    “That’s okay. We’ll invite him too. Then you can give him made up directions so he gets lost and we can keep flirting.” (pushing for the close)
    “omg well we’re getting married…”
    “Not after we have drinks you won’t be.” (pushing for the close)
    etc.

    Where a lot of guys doing indirect will go for a super gay safe close (“surprise!! I have a penis!” game):

    “Hey, what do you think of this shirt?”
    “It’s nice, blue looks good on you.”
    “Awesome (gay high-five)! You should be my personal shopping assistant. I’m updating my wardrobe this weekend, you should come along and help me out.”
    etc.

    Now you have to go from friend zone to fucking her, and that’s if you can even get her to show up again. A 10 has already got a dozen shopping buddies, including her BFF girlfriend she grew up with who needs help shopping for her wedding dress and a sugar-daddy guy who’s flying her to Vegas and giving her $1500 spending money to shop with. Why the fuck would she care about helping you out? I mean, she might, especially if she’s average to ugly, but this is where you get into “I know a ton of hot girls, they’re all on my Facebook and flirt with me, look!!” “How many have you actually fucked?” “…well, I’m working on it.” bullshit.

    Newbies to indirect will also often give up and totally change their intentions to avoid rejection at the first sign of resistance, since they picked indirect thinking it was a way to avoid rejection in the first place so you see shit like:

    “you should come along and help me out.”
    “well I have a boyfriend!”
    “oh that’s okay, we’d just be hanging out as friends. I just think you have a cool sense of style.”
    “I guess that’s okay then…”

    WOOO SOLID CLOSE!! TOTALLY GONNA BONE HER, BRO!!!!

    The worst is when the guy is practically begging for the number and backing off his original intentions and down-playing what he wants to try to coax the girl out, thinking he’s going to 180 it if he can JUST get her alone for a couple hours (sometimes he can, often he can’t since he’s playing “surprise! I have a penis!” game):

    “we should go out for drinks”
    “I don’t know, I’m pretty busy”
    “how about during the day? I’m going clothes shopping and could use a female opinion” (backing off original intent)
    “well I’m not very good with fashion stuff…”
    “oh c’mon, look at you’re, your style is great” (undeserved compliment, too eager)
    “I just kind of threw this on…”
    “well we can just hang out in the food court and chat…how about I get your number?” (backing off original intent)
    “umm well I have a boyfriend…”
    “that’s okay, we can just be friends, how about Facebook?” (backing off original intent)
    etc.

    Jesus. I wanted to punch myself just typing that out. I see interactions like that with newbies a lot and they’re painful.

    Lots of nuances here, but hopefully this clears what I’m talking about up. Guys should experiment with both styles of game to learn what works for them. I like using indirect during day game, but I don’t pussy around with it. That’s why I say indirect and direct both pretty much lead to the same place: My intentions are clear to the girl asap and I’m not backing down or apologizing for it. My congruency to it and my frame control (the adamant belief that we WILL be having sex eventually) is often what makes the difference in the end.

    Does it mean that ultimately I get “rejected” more than the “well we can just hang out and chat, can I have your Facebook?” guy? Sure. But is he really having “success”? He probably collects more numbers ultimately, but a lot more of them are going to be a ton of work or have no actual sexual interest in him.

    Are 10 safe friendly indirect number-closes in your phone where you can probably convert 3 of them after investing a ton of time, effort, etc. into digging yourself out of the friend zone after a totally “innocent” hangout or two while 7 of those numbers lead you on and waste your time/effort with no intention of fucking you or not realizing you want to be more than friends better than 7 up-front rejections but 3 direct number-closes in your phone where they’re ready to come directly to your house to fuck you with no need for 7 hours worth of shopping trips and dinner and drinks etc. together?

    Depends on how much free time/money you have I guess lol When I was younger and hanging out with girls in general was new to me, the safe indirect stuff was fun. A few hours walking around downtown with a girl and shooting the shit and going on a couple dates before finally getting laid was fine, I was just enjoying the whole “being around a girl” thing and I had money to burn on big long adventures like that. Now I don’t have much free time and I’m poor as fuck lol so I’d rather be up front about my intentions so she knows if we hang out, we’re going to be fucking.



It’s Time For Women To Woman Up

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Joe Alpha (@Joe_Alpha)
on February 21, 2012 at 4:43 pm
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Wow… this is excellent. Of course, men like sex. We are built to. But women are the gatekeepers as to who they open their legs for, and yet, we are the ones to blame? This is probably why the idea of women as “victims” has become even more prevalent in our time- they need to blame someone because they can’t admit that they made mistakes.

That actually brings me to something that we embrace at the Joe Alpha Factor- it is a model we call “Emotional Blindness” The definition reads:

“The generally linear thinking of men often conflicts with the generally passive nature of women. Evolution has produced an emotional “blind spot” in women where if directly confronted about a particularly emotional topic, the alphamale may be met with utter denial, and possibly a violent response. This denial is within the woman’s own mind, and not deliberate- Women, it seems, are even indirect with themselves.”

We basically contend at the Joe Alpha Factor that women are more or less fundamentally incapable of dealing with things directly- as their nature is more or less passive via evolution. That means that they will not be able or willing to accept responsibility for the things that they have said or done if they are wrong or the outcome doesn’t suit them.

I actually believe it is a type of blindness that prevents them from admitting fault in any given situation- frustrating the linear thinking and fact gathering that characterizes a man’s brain. So when it comes to facts or feelings you may be met with utter (and even violent) denial simply because of the radically passive nature of women that causes them not to be able to face things directly.

I think that women truly believe (for whatever reason, nature or nurture) that they are never at fault for anything. I find it rare when a woman truly owns up to her choices when they have not suited her, or the outcome was negative.


  • Ripp
    on February 21, 2012 at 9:33 pm
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    Joe: eerily we were writing the same basic claim at the same time. re my post above. *fist bump*

    Having this basic knowledge about the way women think, can and does help predict their behavior.

    Frustrating, sad and ugly as the incongruent bullshit generator of women’s thoughts v. words v. actions are, you can use it to your advantage. Game teaches this.

    Since the bull is going to charge at full force no matter what you do…grab the bull by the horns and steer it in the direction where it helps you best.


    • YaReally
      on February 21, 2012 at 11:05 pm
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      Like the Joker says “I’m not a monster, I’m just ahead of the curve.”



YaReally
on February 21, 2012 at 11:59 pm
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If I got married in like the 40s, I’d get a girl who was in decent shape (healthier culture, no supersized triple bacon 10 cheese greaseburger combo meals), who could cook and would have dinner on the table when I got home, would clean the house, look after our kids, put out when I wanted it, and would stick around for the next 50 years to take care of me in my old age.

Now? I’d get a chick who chugs beer and pizza then makes herself puke or starves herself for a week to try to stay skinny, but it’ll inevitably catch up with her once we’re married or have a kid and she will just keep ballooning up because all bodies are beautiful and I’m an asshole if I tell her to get in shape again. Even as a bachelor with minimal cooking skills I can cook better than most women between 18-35. And I’ll need to since she’ll be working all day too so our kids (she of course came with at least one from another man, and if we have one then hopefully its even mine since it’s a “you go girl!” moment to go cheat with other guys these days as long as she bullshits to her girlfriends that I didn’t satisfy her in some way so the bandwagon can start rounding people up against me) can be raised by a babysitter, so I’ll have to split the cooking and cleaning (not that she’d know much about cleaning since most girls rooms/apartments are a total pig-sty) duties 50/50. And of course she’ll need an expensive wedding thatll obliterate my savings so she can feel like a princess even tho she’ll never do herself up as hot as our wedding day afterward. Plus a honeymoon and we’ll need another car, house…forget saving up for anything I want, she’s justified in cheating if I don’t spend it how she wants.

But it’s cool, if she gets tired of me and encouraged by all her single mom friends who think they’re going to land 6-packed rich young doctors to ditch me she can tell police I abuse her and throw me in jail or just divorce me and take most of my money, keep me from seeing my own kids but still pay her money she can spend on buying herself a new purse and shoes since she needs them to land a new man (hell it’ll probably even pay for their dinners together), and on top of it all I’ll be the asshole that society will shit on for not being man enough to keep a woman, plus whatever “emotional abuse” BS she made up to keep the kids and win the divorce. She can keep and sell the ring I blew 3 months salary on too.

(Then she’ll put up on online dating profile where she’ll be fat, old, with kids, a shitty job, etc and demand any guys messaging her don’t just want sex and buy her dinner and maybe she’ll give them a chance lol)

hmmm lemme think on why I don’t want to get married lol i just don’t understand it!!! lol

I’ll take an X-Box night with the boys followed by random pussy and no commitment over gaining extra chores, draining my bank account, and crushing my hopes and dreams and happiness, thanks.

(I’d still fuck a lot of single moms and older chicks, there are hot ones, I just wouldn’t get seriously involved with them)


  • YaReally
    on February 22, 2012 at 12:09 am
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    wow my description sounds bitter lol but I’m really not. I just choose not to partake in what’s very clearly a flawed social system.

    I think the turning point for me was when a button came off my suit and I could literally not find a single girl out of asking probably 10, who could sew a button. I YouTubed it and did it myself. At that point it’s like wtf, where did real women go?



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I’ve gotten 2 girlfriends in the past 6 months due to CH. Both of them lasted about a a month or two. I noticed I completely dropped my game once I got a girl, I just saw it as a tool to seduce a girl, not keep her. I went from cocky asshole to the sickening cuddly beta slowly as I began to feel their warmth. I noticed the second I got a girl, I gave up my ‘alpha act’ because I had ‘won’. Or so I had thought.


  • ssk08
    on February 16, 2012 at 7:49 pm
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    Same here (two month relationship), but I got oneitis and won her back by not initiating contact for two weeks, then dumped her. It was…painful, but worth it. Never let your guard down. Fixing my inner game now that oneitis unmasked my weaknesses.


    • PUA_Rochester
      on February 17, 2012 at 12:14 pm
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      Best way to avoid oneitis is to have another girl on the side. Also advice from CH (Poon Commandment VII). It helped me when I started seeing a 22-year-old hot girl and I got oneitis quickly. She smelled it and fled, but luckily I had something on the side to tie me over. This helped me recover much more quickly and didn’t affect my game too much.

      I guess my question is: when do I cut the girls loose? Obviously if they start becoming serious, say I love you, etc., and you’re not into her, you let her go. My one girl on the side, however, is very cool, only wants to see me max. two days a week, doesn’t become all lubby dubby, and has her own thing going on. She has started calling me “babe” though, which is concerning.

      I remember listening to Brad P.’s CD, and he said that as long as the girl is not making the moves to becoming your girlfriend (by saying I love you, planning on moving in, wanting to see you everynight, etc.), you can keep the fling going indefinitely until she says that the gig’s up (or you want to end it for whatever reason).

      I wonder if Heartiste would mind expanding upon Poon Commandment VII, i.e., how long should you keep the girl on the side around, etc.


      • YaReally
        on February 17, 2012 at 8:52 pm
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        1) Never ever ever give an inch. If she thinks there’s a remote chance that she can turn you into a BF she will cling to it and increase the shit-testing until she forces herself to give you an ultimatum at which point you become her BF or you hold strong and accept that the relationship has run its course. You can be alpha for a year and then crack and come to her family dinner and now she thinks she just has to be persistent/patient since you showed that your resolve isn’t as strong as you pretended.

        She’ll also know that your word doesn’t mean shit which is where she’ll first start losing the attraction for you that she had when you were aloof. In Californication season 2 the alpha rocker guy talking to a chick goes:

        “Hank and I are going to the bar.”
        “okay let’s go!”
        “Sorry girl, no tag-alongs.”
        “Why?”
        “Because the words left my mouth. (stare-down)”

        Alpha. But how alpha would he still be if she went “aww pleeeeease?” and he said “sigh okay….”

        2) Don’t see her more than once a week. Twice absolute max. More than that and she’ll get attached fast…you’ll get attached too. Why wouldn’t you, neither of you has time to be playing the field. Cue scarcity mentality, “this one’s not like the others”, etc.

        3) If you DO meet her friends (see rule 1), don’t make it clear what your situ with her is. Let them assume what they want. A girl’s biggest fear is social judgement. She will fuck you for months/years and be fine with it until one of her friends says “you mean he doesn’t even take you to dinner?” and then she has to get you to take her to dinner so her friend doesn’t think she’s slutty/stupid/etc. She never gave a shit about dinner till she faced social judgement, but now she’ll end a mutually beneficial relationship over it.

        Be a cool guy tho. Let her know the deal up front that you aren’t the settling down type. 1) you’ll break less hearts and 2) it’s less hassle on your end because you can snuff the shit-tests out simply with congruency instead of having to make up bullshit stalling-for-time reasons.

        Guys who string girls along telling them lies like “i love you” when they don’t and “i’m not seeing anyone else” when they are, just to keep the sex going, are guys who have a scarcity mentality and live their lives incongruently because they are too chicken-shit to admit what they want, not apologize for wanting it, and are too scared to let the chips fall where they may. Promising a girl monogamy and then cheating on her or implying you could be turned into a long term BF when you know you can’t (by her at least) is weak.


  • Ripp
    on February 17, 2012 at 1:34 am
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    I’m not trying to patronize, but what I read is that your game has improved significantly from your previous 6 months- but your next challenge is in the context of “harem management” for lack of a better term. Or rotation management or whatever.

    I’ve been there. Once I climbed a few rungs and started getting frequent sex with women I was really attracted to, some complacency set in and I let the sex “beta” me out. It also killed my game development and game with other new opportunities because this “one” chic took up too much bandwidth.

    Essentially you’re expereiencing an advanced form of ONEitis and haven’t properly “trained” your rotation partners. This is key as you develop larger harems and manage the expectations. It’s important to establish a “random, scarce and intermittent” communication pattern from the onset. Eventually when the sexual line is crossed you’ll have choices to make between giving up more of your free time to continue the relationship or risk losing the account for other new opportunities.

    I coach my students to make sure not to communicate too much with their targets- especially after sex. If you do you risk her clinging on, going nuts on you, or you can also beta out and blow the opp.


    • Rex
      on February 17, 2012 at 1:00 pm
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      Yeah, you’re right. I literally have NO motivation to go out and get laid if I already am. I just see it as, I can just call this girl up and fuck, why do I have to go work at it? Again, I think it’s just my mindset of seeing game as a tool instead of a lifestyle, or whatever it is. And Maya…stop trolling.


      • YaReally
        on February 17, 2012 at 9:23 pm
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        Here’s a relevant article that might help you understand what makes you tick better:

        http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?2541-Thrill-of-the-Hunt-men-vs-Pleasure-of-Sex-men

        A lot of PUAs (like myself) fall into the Thrill of the Hunt category because we were socially inept and introverted most of our lives so the concept of having such control over our lives and such dominance of social interactions gives us a god-like high and we care more about that than the actual sex part (although it’s awesome too lol). We went without sex for long periods of time so often we’re the guys who will test new ideas out or try purposely stupid things just to see what happens because we don’t really care if we lose a few lays doing it…especially if we gain knowledge or a funny story out of it. We’re also usually the types who will pass up a guaranteed lay with an uggo/average chick for a remote or seemingly impossible shot at a lay with a way hotter one. Mystery, Style, Tyler Durden, etc were these types of guys, that’s why they advanced game knowledge so rapidly.

        A lot of naturals fall into the Pleasure of Sex category because they always had sex available to them whether it was flings or serial monogamy so for them going without sex is strange and depressing (a natural buddy of mine gets massively depressed and is annoying as fuck to listen to him bitch when he doesn’t get laid for a WEEK lol). These guys will fuck smokin hot girls because they’re naturally good with women and aren’t intimidated but they’re just as happy fucking an uggo. Consistent sex is their drive. These guys have a hard time learning pickup because each success is followed by laziness in training. Imagine trying to lose weight by dieting but for each successful healthy meal you have you reward yourself with donuts.

        If you’re the Pleasure of Sex guy, I honestly don’t know how to help you because you literally totally justifiably just lack the motivation to sharpen your skills. It’s not “worse”, it just means you will probably have a harder time progressing at pickup since you don’t see the point.

        Maybe focusing on the other benefits of pickup will help? Ie – you gain confidence overall, better public speaking skills, you can network with people better which could help your business life, you learn new things from people, you keep the alpha behavior that keeps your GF attracted, etc. what’s important about social dynamics to you beyond sex?



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YaReally
on February 16th, 2012 at 11:01 am
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http://attraction-chronicles.blogspot.com/2006/02/when-to-call-what-to-say-if-she-flakes.html – Tyler Durden from ages ago explaining why you’re not that important to the chick and why you shouldn’t take flaking personally. It often comes down to right place right time like this blog post says, glad the manosphere is catching up to PUAs.

Personally I like being the B guy. Once you’re the A guy, she pushes for more commitment and more of a relationship and you get way more shit-testing and if you’re not willing to commit, the relationship ends a lot faster as an A guy because she has more motivation to lock you in by making ultimatums.

As the B guy to a lot of different women, sometimes they can meet up, sometimes they can’t, that’s why you have more than one. They don’t ask for commitment, or for you to meet their families, they know when they come over it’s just to fuck, it’s an awesome situ.

The only hitch is you have to not be jealous of the A guy which is something most guys have trouble with. They want to be the A guy for the girl and the thought of her fucking another dude or liking another dude more eats away at them. I don’t care, hell I give girls advice on their A-guy relationships after we bang and we’re making small talk. Wtf do I care? Even if she lands her A guy the way she dreams of and doesn’t want to see me anymore, I have other girl’s. No big deal to me.

Wanting to be her A guy if you don’t want a committed LTR with her is just ego bullshit.


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YaReally
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“The A guy is the guy who is currently getting sex or could easily get sex from the woman which usually puts all other men at a serious disadvantage.”

No. It puts all other men who aren’t fucking multiple women at a serious disadvantage. To a “player”, her not making time to fuck him is just unfortunate. For her. Because she’s missing out on his cock.

He’ll try again if he gets bored or the opportunity is convenient but otherwise who cares, her pussy doesn’t shoot rainbows and magic. There’s another girl dying to fuck him. Shrug.


Hypergamy, Sluts And Smart Women

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YaReally
on February 16, 2012 at 10:07 am
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This is why money is not an “attraction trigger”.

When women are all earning a bunch of money, as this study shows, money loses its value (the same way when Brad Pitt, Clooney, and Matt Damon all hangout together they aren’t sitting there in awe of eachother’s fortunes or movie careers) and a man relying on money to attract women is left going “wait what? But I have a BMW!! I’m rich that’s a trigger!!!” while the girl says “cool. I have two BMWs. Yawn.” and then fucks the confident asshole.

She can’t earn the feelings a guy with game gives her. She can never obtain an abundance of that from another source. Confidence is the ultimate “attraction trigger”. If a woman could go to a “Gina tingle” vending machine and load up on a ton of that feeling, confident men would no longer be a big deal. But she can’t. Money, she can get a good career or go to any nightclub in a miniskirt or online dating site and have dozens of rich men chasing her. Looks, she can go to any nightclub in a miniskirt and be surrounded by guys with 6-packs and Armani suits chasing her. These things don’t have value to the really hot girls because they have access to an overabundance of them.

The average/ugly/poor/desperate girls don’t have that same overabundant access to those things do cigar-stache chick pays more attention when you have those things. But why are you picking up the bottom of the barrel? And even then, she’s not attracted to you, she just realizes you’re a good catch for her since she can’t get those things elsewhere so she’s classifying you as her provider beta male. Thus the fatty on online dating sites saying “I love my hubby but want some adventure on the side”

Looks follows the same concept as money.

If a woman is a 9 or 10 then she’s surrounded by hot 6-packed rich dudes buying her drinks all night and taking her on trips and expensive dinners and trying to get into her pants. That is her reality. Date one for a while and watch the amount of guys orbiting her at all times, it’s retarded. The average normal male can’t even comprehend what the world of a hot girl is like.

Because she has such an over-abundance of those things, they lose their value. Everyone has a 6-pack so who cares about 6-packs? She’s seen a dozen of them that night.

So who does she go home with? That’s where we go back to the early PUAs who were going out wearing crazy Mystery style peacocking outfits. That demonstrated the same level of confidence a peacocked girl has and the PUAs were so in their own reality and wouldn’t supplicate etc like the 6-pack guys, so the chick was attracted because while guys with 6-packs and money were abundant in her world, guys with confidence were not.

It wasn’t the PVC pants or eyeliner themselves that were an “attraction trigger” just as its not the money itself that’s a trigger, it was the confidence that wearing those things demonstrated since anyone peacocked takes a ton of shit-tests on and a guy who can handle social pressure and shit-tests is confident in himself. That’s why if an AMOG made fun of Mystery’s black nails he wouldn’t go “hey fuck you asshole” (insecure, no confidence), he’d go “sorry man these nails are black not pink, gay bar is up the street” (secure, confident)

This is a very important concept of internal game. Guys who don’t understand it haven’t picked up the peacocked turbo girls at clubs, haven’t dated or spent a lot of time around legit society-standards 10s (if your girl doesn’t have guys blowing up her phone daily offering to take her to expensive dinners and buy her shit and fly her to other countries she’s not a 10 even if you think she’s hot), and haven’t been around enough variety in social circles (in both looks and finances). Once you have done that stuff, this is all very clear and observable behavior.

It’s been said since before The Game was published: game was DESIGNED for the hottest girls. The hotter and smarter they are, the more powerful game is on them.


  • Insight
    on February 16, 2012 at 1:46 pm
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    If you are too lazy or don’t have the time or inclination to start a blog with fresh content, you should at least start one where you cut-n-paste all your comments from here. It would be great to find all this in one place without having to wade through a sea of mediocrity.

    [heartiste: yes, yareally is a quality game commenter. i'd put him in the same league as rollo. it's funny, the names of top tier commenters may change and they may come and go, but their representation in the general commenting community does not change. top notch commenters still, in my view, hover around 10-20% of total commentage. this is probably true for most non-mainstream blogs. the only way to raise this percentage is through strict moderation and pruning, or broadening the blog's subject matter to draw in quality commenters from different communities. but then some of the fun would be sucked out of the rapport that trolls and doofuses inspire.]


    • YaReally
      on February 17, 2012 at 5:59 pm
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      I don’t do a blog cause all I’m doing is rehashing PUA community concepts. All this knowledge is already out there so it’s not my own material. Plus I have other shit to do, I do most of my posts on my phone while I’m shitting (like this one lol)

      A lot of what I write is new or a new perspective to the manosphere blog audience because this culture isn’t as in-depth as PUAs so on my end I basically see a blog post that touches the main element of a concept we’ve already studied and explains the surface enough for most guys to get the basic idea which is all manosphere readers tend to want (nothing wrong with that, I like to watch the movie of something rather than read the book)…then I come in and expand on that concept and try to link it to other ideas I’ve seen in these blogs that I know you guys will understand.

      In my mind you guys are all running way ahead of the average male, but way behind PUAs, in terms of breaking down social dynamics and attraction and all that. But to just improve your dating life you don’t NEED to understand shit as in-depth as the PUA community, it’s overkill. I study it deep because it’s a skillset I want to eventually master, but really my dating life was just fine a couple years into learning game lol

      I think these blogs reach a wider more casual audience than PUA does because of the simplified concepts/maxims but for modern men as a whole I view that as a good thing. The more men who start to realize they’re even IN the Matrix of bullshit social conditioning the better, even if they arent interested in taking it to a level where theyre fighting off a thousand Agent Smiths with one hand.

      My first comment on this blog was clarifying a PUA opener that was confusing to this audience. All I’m really interested in is bridging the gap between your guys’ knowledge and ours. If someone wants to archive my comments somewhere for reference, feel free to but I think the article they’re in response to is an important context for them to make sense.


    • YaReally
      on February 17, 2012 at 6:04 pm
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      P.S. thanks for the kind words, where ARE my manners lol

      Now it’s Friday evening. Shower up and hit a bar and talk to some girls!



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xsplat
on February 19, 2012 at 8:26 pm
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yes, yareally is a quality game commenter. i’d put him in the same league as rollo.

Yareally has some good experience and insight to share, but his theory is broken where he reduces all attraction down to nothing other than confidence, and where he refuses to acknowledge that anything other than confidence is also attractive. That you agree with him on this point is a major weakness in your theory, H.

I would actually put it in much stronger terms.


  • YaReally
    on February 21, 2012 at 5:22 pm
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    You can keep repeating this but you will keep being wrong and I will keep attributing it to your lack of varied experience and inability to remove your blindspots and biases and analyze the world thru an unfiltered lens.

    I don’t care about anything except what works. If money made a difference I would go get some.

    You are still not boiling your beliefs down to their core. Its like if I asked you what was in Pepsi you’d say “Pepsi!” instead of listing off the chemicals used.

    A chick on the weekend (22-26ish marketing exec chick (whoops just realized we haven’t asked eachother our ages) she was sober, babysitting her drunk friend) I literally took to a McDonalds the next day. Wearing the same clothes I had on the night before. Because I slept on a friend’s couch (he’s a natural who hasn’t had a job in like 2 years, he tapped his official 100th girl on thursday then 2 more by Monday, one of them was the first girl’s friend). She paid for our McDs. She doesn’t know what I do for a living and she has to come to my place because I don’t have a car, and she’s bringing wine for us lol I’ve already sexted her to orgasm so it’s a done deal. Hell I would’ve just fucked her in McDonald but she was a shy innocent girl who wouldn’t let me do any kino. I went back to my buddys place and he laughed at me because I was like “I can’t believe I wasted a whole hour at McDonald’s and we didn’t even fuck in the bathroom. Going on dates is retarded” and meant it lol from the sexting I know what she’s into now and I established the fuckbuddy frame and all that so no more gay dates needed. She’s just coming over to bang as soon as she steps thru the door.

    Do you think if I was rich she’d have gone “i know im shy around guys but you have an armani suit let’s go fuck in the McDonald’s bathroom!”? No. I spent 20 min flirting at the bar, an hour on our McDonald’s date, and a few hours sexting and it’s done, the second she’s at my door I’ll just pin her against the wall and escalate.. It doesn’t get much more efficient than that with this personality type. If she wasn’t shy I could’ve gotten her sooner. Confidence is king, girls don’t give a shit what’s in your wallet. Money does not make their pussy wet or they’d stay at home rubbing dollar pills on their clit.

    And my buddies and I will do this all again and again and again while you sit there covering your ears re-enforcing your limiting beliefs.

    Tl;dr – you are dumb.



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on February 14, 2012 at 2:00 pm
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I choose masturbation.

A. I don’t believe I could ever pay for sex, not when there is plenty sex available in which no monetary transaction is required for the deed. If I was a wretched omega, though, I’d probably pay to have my product consumed.

B. My penis will shrivel in flaccid defiance at the sight of such a sorry specimen.


  • YaReally
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    Agreed.



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YaReally
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100% irrelevant.

I don’t own the stuff in my room because it’s cool. The stuff in my room is cool because I own it.

If a girl you bring back to your place walks in and suddenly doesn’t want to fuck anymore it’s because:

1) your game sucks and you didn’t build enough attraction, next time don’t bring her back so soon. Once she’s attracted she’ll “forgive” anything. Doesn’t matter if she’s a Gucci wearing socialite and you’re living off a friend’s couch. Attraction is attraction. She might not bring you out to hang with her rich friends or marry you but she’ll fuck you.

2) your place is so nice and fantastic that you just categorized yourself in her mind as Provider worthy. She WAS gonna ride your cock when she thought you were a normal dude and not a long term candidate, but then she saw your amazing place and went “oooh this guy has potential, I’d better not put out too soon so he doesn’t think I’m a slut and so I can enjoy this lifestyle he can clearly provide”

Or 3) you’re embarrassed by your place, and she reads that in your sub-communications. Since she feels what you feel, your feeling embarrassed about your living situ makes her feel like there’s something to be embarrassed about.

I’d like a nice swank American Psycho place, but that’s for my own satisfaction, it has no relevance to getting laid.



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YaReally
on February 10, 2012 at 6:35 pm
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lol at smoking when the chick will be huffing an puffing for fresh air as she rows.



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YaReally
on February 9th, 2012 at 3:49 pm
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Those “classy” women are just as raunchy and slutty as the girl in the miniskirt dancing on the bar. When you understand that, you’ll understand female sexuality.


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YaReally
on February 9th, 2012 at 3:44 pm
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One. Occasionally 2, but that’s usually because of logistics, not lack of attraction.

If a chick is going to fuck you on date 5 she’s going to fuck you on date 1. Tighten up your game so that the stuff that builds attraction on date 2-5 happens on date 1. That’s why you have a solid repeatable “Day 2″ that has social proof, good logistics, venue changing, etc all built in. Like having her pick you up at your place but not staying long so she’s comfortable coming back there later, have her leave her car at your place because you want to walk, take her to a lounge near your place where the bartenders/waitresses know you by name, have an excuse to leave (“this place is so loud. let’s have the next drink at my place, I’ll show you that movie we talked about”), stop at a convenience store on the way or walk through a park etc. By that point you guys should be making out. Bring her into your place and escalate from there.

There’s no reason to take her skydiving on date 1 and then to a fancy restaraunt on date 2 and then out to a movie for date 3 blah blah blah. PUAs used to call it Speed Seduction, and our main message board was Fast Seduction. There’s a reason for those titles.

Any bullshit about “a girl putting out on the first date means she’s not girlfriend material” is just social conditioning and a madonna/whore complex on the man’s part. Which, ironically, is WHY girls try to make guys wait a few dates before they fuck…cause they fear that judgement. When a girl can tell you won’t judge her, she’ll let down the Anti-Slut Defense ASAP.


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YaReally
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lol this started out as the dumbest comments thread ever.

But i couldnt look away from the trainwreck and now it’s my favorite. I heart runbyateapot lol keep doin your thang man



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YaReally
on February 1, 2012 at 3:55 am
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“assume attraction”
“what you feel, she feels”
“whoever’s reality is stronger wins”

The fact that you expect her to be attracted is what MAKES her attracted.

An older PUA way of thinking was you have to wait for indicators of interest to know she’s attracted so you can escalate. But the way we look at it now, you escalating is what creates those indicators of interest. The fact that you’re confident enough to make a move and expect a positive response is why you get a positive response.

Of course to avoid being accused of or committing rape you have to learn social calibration, and cultivate the skill of deep self-analysis to he able to fine tune this (despite PUA haters’ ignorant belief that we’re delusional and blind to any faults, we just understand that approaching a girl isn’t the time to be analyzing yourself). Plus you need to learn what Last Minute Resistance is, how to deal with it, how to avoid triggering her Anti-Slut Defense, and how to avoid Buyer’s Remorse.



YaReally
on February 1, 2012 at 7:52 am
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Another thing to consider is that a confident guy, or someone who practices game, sees potential the average guy doesn’t.

We’ll approach girls 100% cold, like they don’t even know we exist, until we stop them and say hello. A newbie PUA will stop them all and cross his fingers. But an advanced one will pick specific targets where his RAS notices “she’s not wearing a wedding ring, she’s smiling and in a good mood, she’s wearing an item of clothing thats really easy to tease her about, an event just happened that would be an easy opener, her fat friend went to the bathroom and her other friend is on the prowl and won’t cockblock, and the bouncer about to pass by knows me and will shake my hand if I give him a nod giving me social proof, she’s with a super beta looking male friend who will be easy to befriend and out-alpha, i just got a sweet haircut and I’m wearing my favorite shirt, and on top of it all she’s gorgeous and totally my type so I’m going to be totally into her and it’ll be easy to flirt because I want to bone her …….OF COURSE she’ll love me!”

If that girl just saw a photo of me or just met me in a neutral quiet environment for a minute, she might not mark me down as attractive. But as all those external factors fall into play (which at the time I’m confident they likely will because of my experience in these situations) she won’t be judging me just based on just my looks or a short mundane interaction but on my alpha status, social proof, wit, humor, ability to tease and spike her emotions, all backed up with the rock solid confidence of experience expecting it to go well. By the end of it I know I’ll be way more attractive to her than if she just looked at my face/body as she walked by, so I’ll just assume from the start that she’s going to love me.

This is an intricate fluid form of “situational confidence”. A static simple form would be “I’m a bartender and at my bar it’s easy for me to get laid!” (meanwhile at other bars or in the mall during the day the girls don’t notice him because he doesn’t have the same confidence he does in his own bar because he doesn’t have all the external factors at this new bar that he does at his bar). Or “I’m rich and girls love rich guys!” (meanwhile if he loses his money or is in social circles with people who have more money than him or don’t put value on money (hippies lol), girls don’t notice him because he doesn’t have the same external factors (bling) that he did when he had money and was in an environment that valued it).

The fluid form of this is boiled down to “a lot of external things that work in my favor are involved in this situation so I expect her to be attracted to me”. The flip side like in the examples above though, is that when those factors aren’t there the PUA ends up not approaching and you end up with the guys who plateau making excuses like “oh I won’t approach till she’s off the phone” or “I can’t just escalate her friends are right there” or “oh man if only I had done my hair today I look like a slob otherwise I would totally get her” or “as soon as I get that raise at work” or “as soon as I get my 6-pack back”.

And you can get laid that way. You can totally function and have success with women, even really good success. A lot of naturals are this way, having favorite bars, lucky t-shirts, specific haircuts, making sure they work out, getting high paying jobs, etc. and when the external factors they place value on are THERE, they absolutely kill it. But they’re dependent on those external factors being there. It’s no different than someone who has to get drunk to have fun (instead of simply inherently having fun all the time) or has a mansion and expensive clothes but HAS to have a Ferrrari to feel complete and to consider himself finally a success (instead of simply feeling successfu and complete all the time). A consumer-based society LOVES those guys. The movie Fight Club was about breaking free of that stuff and stripping a man down to his core to base his value on.

A really advanced PUA passes thru that and learns that his value comes from his core, it’s internal. It’s not based on external factors like a nice shirt, whether the girl is single or not, whether she has cockblocky friends, whether he’s in a new environment where he’s a nobody (or even an enviro where he’s disliked), or whether he has money or a 6-pack. He returns to approaching everything like a newbie instead of waiting for the “perfect storm”, but this time around his value is internal and comes from his core so all those little factors needing to be there becomes irrellevant. He knows that stone cold straight up, he is high value enough to get the girl no matter what obstacles are present. It may not work out, but when he’s fully in that state he doesn’t really get shot down anymore. Some girls might not fuck him but he doesn’t get the “FUCK OFF!!!!” that the newbie and advanced PUA (outside of his comfort environment/situation) gets.

At first that state is fleeting, and a common way to get into that state is to do embarrassing shit (cause a scene, get blown out on purpose, etc) until your brain registers “oh ya, fuck it, there’s no pretending I’m smooth and suave now that that happened, I guess I’ll have to just rely on my core being enough!”. But over time the state stays with you longer and longer until ultimately it consumes you and you simply have full out internally base confidence at all times.

The average guy with no game and situational confidence at best, who thinks looks, money, etc matter to girls could be a good looking guy but will talk himself out of thinking the girl is interested because he doesn’t have money so how COULD she be? Or the bartender who’s in his own bar will talk himself out of it “if only she could see what a badass I am at my bar!”. These guys woildnt expect things to go well because their value comes from the wrong place.


  • YaReally
    on February 1, 2012 at 8:00 am
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    “Or the bartender who’s in his own bar will talk himself out of it”

    Oops I mean who ISN’T in his own bar (where his value is).



Zambo
on February 1, 2012 at 11:06 am
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If you overestimate too much, and push too hard, women will consider you “creepy” – they’ll mock you to all their friends and your entire female social group will be off limits for fucking forever. That’s how females conspire to keep beta males sexless. And since most socializing/mating is done within coed social networks now, you basically have to let the women make the first move.


  • YaReally
    on February 1, 2012 at 3:34 pm
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    That’s where social calibration comes in. Guess how you get that: go out and talk to girls lol