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Direct Game Essentials

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YaReally
on January 25, 2012 at 7:50 pm
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This is modern PUA game. No fuzzy hats required:


  • YaReally
    on January 25, 2012 at 8:04 pm
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    (most of the vids have more footage spliced in throughout the speaking parts so watch the entire vids or you’ll miss out on some good stuff)



Direct Game Essentials

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YaReally
on January 25, 2012 at 8:47 pm
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More examples of mostly direct game I posted to that other blog since I’m on a roll with the videos today. Also examples of how you don’t need money or to be 6’5″ or to wear a fuzzy hat (although a Dragonball wig helps lol):

I wonder how much the cover charge to talk to girls on the street cost these guys. My favorite part of the video is where they bought all those drinks and shots and dinner for the girls from the bartender on the street corner. Oh no wait, none of that happened. They spent nothing but a few hours of flirting.

Although I guess the Dragonball Z costume probably cost some money:

At 2:50 into this vid:

I love where he pulled out his wallet and rifled through all the money in it to get that chick to invite him to join her. Oh no wait, that didn’t happen.

I guess this guy WILL have to pay to have sex with this girl, I mean, it’ll probably cost him at LEAST a dollar in text messages to tell her to come hang out at his place.

Plus if his time is worth $50/hr, he just blew like $7 there…fuck, that’s steep!! Why not just get a $7 hooker dude!!!1111


  • flyfreshandyoung
    on January 26, 2012 at 1:18 am
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    Jesus titty-fucking Christ.

    Rollo’s, here. Where you gonna spam next?


    • YaReally
      on January 26, 2012 at 12:21 pm
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      Those vids are worth spamming. Any guy who’s learning game should be required to view them because they contain the concepts these blogs discuss, distilled down into an extremely efficient form. Leading, frame control, teasing, cold-reading, dominance, kino, it’s all there, in crystal clear video to show newbies what it’s looks like in action.

      Sadly, there are still people who think the girls are all paid actresses or hookers, or say stuff like “a 6’2″ law student talking to a under dressed so so coed” and completely ignore the other guys in the videos who are average height/looks, or in Tyler’s case a 5’8″ pale balding ginger sometimes with a ridiculous beard, and doing the same shit using the same concepts.

      Usually those people are the ones who don’t go out much or have a really vague understanding of pickup.


  • evilalpha
    on January 26, 2012 at 11:42 am
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    While your sarcasm is hilarious your point is undermined by featuring comic con chicks..and a 6’2″ law student talking to a under dressed so so coed. DHV doesn’t need to be expensive, but it’s still DHV


    • Anonymous
      on January 26, 2012 at 12:26 pm
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      I hadn’t noticed that: the guy was trying to tell the mother of someone who won’t age well that he’s going to be a lawyer and he’d therefore be a good pick for her daughter. What’s the cost of being able to tell a coed that you’re going to be a lawyer soon? $100k?

      Not that this line of talking would have been a turnoff to the mother and daughter. Quite the opposite. What this blog and that video really teaches, however, is that there were other things he did that were more effective, like holding onto her hand like that and daring to pick her up while she was on her cell phone. That took balls.


      • YaReally
        on January 26, 2012 at 4:59 pm
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        “What’s the cost of being able to tell a coed that you’re going to be a lawyer soon? $100k?”

        Free, if you lie.


    • YaReally
      on January 26, 2012 at 12:28 pm
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    • Anonymous
      on January 26, 2012 at 12:33 pm
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      1. He says “What’s your name” and then shakes her free hand and does not let go while she also does not let go. Brilliant.

      2. The “Direct Game” is about a cup of coffee, not sex. It’s important for anyone discussing direct game vs indirect game to note that going for the coffee instadate has to count as direct game.

      3. Demanding the attention of someone on her cell phone. Priceless. I have to rate that one of the best instructional videos ever.


      • YaReally
        on January 26, 2012 at 5:05 pm
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        No man, didn’t you read what evilalpha said?  None of that mattered it only comes down to that he was tall, said he was a lawyer, and she was a hideous ugly piece of garbage.

        Just kidding. Good analysis. The lingering hand-hold is golden, try it next time you introduce yourself to a girl (skip to 50 seconds in):



Free Lunch

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YaReally
on January 25th, 2012 at 1:21 pm
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lol fuck this is going backwards. What’s next? “Actually it’s alpha to marry a girl and you should always let her do anything she wants.”

You can rationalize paying however you like but at the end of the day you’re spending money that you don’t need to spend. If I’m walking to the store up the street I COULD walk In circles around a few buildings and climb over a tree before i finally get there…but why not just walk straight to it?


Free Lunch

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YaReally
on January 25th, 2012 at 8:26 pm
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Huh…weird, these guys don’t seem to be paying. Maybe you’re doing it wrong lol:

(most of the vids have more footage spliced in throughout the speaking parts so watch the entire vids or you’ll miss out on some good stuff)


YaReally
on January 25th, 2012 at 8:43 pm
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I wonder how much the cover charge to talk to girls on the street cost these guys. My favorite part of the video is where they bought all those drinks and shots and dinner for the girls from the bartender on the street corner. Oh no wait, none of that happened. They spent nothing but a few hours of flirting.

Although I guess the Dragonball Z costume probably cost some money:

At 2:50 into this vid:

I love where he pulled out his wallet and rifled through all the money in it to get that chick to invite him to join her. Oh no wait, that didn’t happen.

I guess this guy WILL have to pay to have sex with this girl, I mean, it’ll probably cost him at LEAST a dollar in text messages to tell her to come hang out at his place.

Plus if his time is worth $50/hr, he just blew like $7 there…fuck, that’s steep!! Why not just get a $7 hooker dude!!!1111

Making a point AND being a dick, who says you can’t do both at the same time? Quit spending money on girls when you don’t have to, spend it on yourself and your hobbies. :P


Someone Saved A Life Tonight

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Rant Casey - BR
on January 24, 2012 at 11:41 am
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I have done this 3 times as well. All the 3, kept a cynical smile on theyr faces, and retorted that “you know, everyone’s different”. All the 3 were still being LJBFed, dumped prematurely or being beta bitchboys of girlfriends, the next time I saw them.

You know… you can take the horse to the river, but you cant force it to drink the water.

Sometimes it seems to me that the most desperate are the most likely to be open to learn something that actually works. Perhaps because they are already hopeless – or maybe cause they already tried all the wrong ways do it; or maybe both.

And betas who do relatively well although they commit many slips – some of them are keen, and willing to improve, and just dont know how to.

Now the beta who can get himself girls on ocasion, and keeps them for a few months on the basis of submiting to her whims – I dont waste my time on them. These are the most tenacious in theyr betaness: because theyr ankle grabbing assures them three or four months of female company, they believe its the right thing to do, and its all a matter of findind “the right one” (meaning, one who would reward submission with presence, ethernally).


  • YaReally
    on January 24, 2012 at 11:59 pm
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    “Sometimes it seems to me that the most desperate are the most likely to be open to learn”

    It’s only after you’ve lost everything that you’re free to do anything.

    Most guys who fail at getting good at game fail because they didn’t hit actual rock-bottom yet so they half-assed and “dabbled” with it and moved on. Once you have absolutely nothing and have finally given up after trying everything else, that’s when you become humble enough to admit you need to change and that’s when you become motivated enough to change.



Long-Term Cohabitation Is Just As Good As Marriage

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YaReally
on January 23, 2012 at 10:50 pm
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Heres the most in-depth PUA breakdown of the “marriage/monogamy offers nothing you can’t get being legally single” concept, with numbers and stats and covering topics like having kids and living arrangements-

“BIG POST: The Ultimate Post on Why Long-Term Monogamy Doesn’t Work”:

http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/search.cgi?action=retrieve&grp=9&mn=1240554210553038&refine=



Borderline Personality Disorder

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YaReally
on January 21st, 2012 at 1:53 am
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lol


YaReally
on January 21st, 2012 at 1:58 am
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How much did something you did cost again? Could you drop in a dollar amount of some sort? And were you traveling to, from, or in some exotic location on one of your many business ventures? Did you rock climb or skydive while you were there? I’m really curious!!!


YaReally
on January 21st, 2012 at 2:00 am
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Oops that was a reply to the troll. Now it just seems mean-spirited lol


YaReally
on January 22nd, 2012 at 6:01 pm
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10 as soon as I walk through the door. 0 once those 10 walk out of the men’s room stall looking disappointed. :(


NEXT

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YaReally
on January 19th, 2012 at 5:25 pm
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You can’t NEXT a girl you haven’t fucked.

Too many guys are like “oh she didn’t return my call…NEXT!! showed that bitch!”. No, SHE NEXT’ed YOU because your game sucks and to protect your ego you’re ignoring the fact that somewhere along the way you fucked up attracting her so she didn’t return your call and you’re creating a blindspot where you think you “won” instead of figuring out why she didn’t return your call and learning to overcome that.

“oh she flaked on me…NEXT!!!!”. No, you suck and didn’t attract her enough for her to show up. She wouldn’t flake on Brad Pitt. Analyze why she flaked on you and accept that you lost that one because your game needs work.

“I told her not to do something and she did it…NEXT!!!”. No, you suck and should figure out why she thought it was acceptable to disrespect you. What vibe are you giving off that she thinks you’ll put up with that shit?

If a girl is making you wait more than 3 dates for sex, your escalation sucks and you are not attractive to her (or you’re too attractive and have placed yourself in the Provider category where she wants to impress you by not putting out, or you suck at screening and qualifying and are out with a nun, etc). The point is, figure out why she wouldn’t put out. Sometimes it’s not your fault but like 90% of the time it is, if you can swallow your pride and actually objectively analyze your game.

You can stop pursuing her if she doesn’t put out, but don’t act like you’re The Man and NEXT’ed her. You fucked up and then gave up and probably can’t even explain WHY she didn’t put out.


YaReally
on January 20th, 2012 at 8:39 am
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That is a fantastic way of not improving your game.


YaReally
on January 21st, 2012 at 1:45 am
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That is a fantastic way of not improving your game.

You’re just playing into the pitcher’s game when you learn to swing at a good pitch. You should just let it pass by and tell everyone you’re so alpha you didn’t care that you struck out. Then you win the baseball game and can play for the major leagues!!!

There’s no shame in admitting you suck. That’s the first step to fixing it.


What Makes A Good Wingman?

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Redleg
on January 19, 2012 at 3:53 pm
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Jeez, tough list of requirements, especially for those of us climbing out of betadom in groups.

Is the DHV a wingman brings worth the high level of calculation one must go through to screen and accept a good wingman?


  • YaReally
    on January 20, 2012 at 9:42 am
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    Yes.

    A really solid wingman is worth more than you can imagine. Two guys working together who totally vibe off eachother and both understand the principles of game are pretty much unstoppable.

    I’ve wung with a lot of guys and as long as they’re cool and outgoing our results are decent, but I’ve had two wings over the years who were extremely good and understood how it all works and we tore shit up constantly. We’d know exactly what the other guy was saying to the girls even if we couldn’t hear and we’d know exactly when the other guy was about to escalate things and give him isolation at the perfect moment or escalate on our own girl to match the vibe, we’d know exactly when the other guy was going to go for a number or kidnap a girl out of the bar and occupy the friend’s, we’d know when to stay away from eachother (if the vibe is on you don’t need any distractions popping the bubble of seduction, even a DHV from a buddy), etc etc

    It’s like watching a choreographed Jackie Chan fight scene. Just poetry in motion. Worth the investment of studying and memorizing some rules and tactics.



Overconfidence Is The Heart Of Game

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xsplat
on January 18, 2012 at 9:49 pm
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Confidence is attractive, but confidence is not the ONLY thing that is attractive.

It is helpful in order to be overconfident to deny this reality, but it is also willful ignorance.

I find willful ignorance to be abhorant, especially when it is in regards to maps of reality.

The reality is clear that confidence is one attractive trait among many. It may be that it is a necessary trait, without which other traits hold little or at least less value.

But there is a magical word in the english language, that is of great intellectual power. The word is “and”. Confidence is attractive AND other traits are ALSO attractive.


  • YaReally
    on January 19, 2012 at 1:59 am
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    I think you confuse “attention” with “attraction”. They are not the same thing. Certain “attraction triggers” are just getting attention, not attraction.

    The difference is important. Things that trigger attraction trump things that trigger attention.

    A rich guy making it rain gets attention. How much of his self worth he bases on the money and how he handles girls testing him about it (by trying to get him to supplicate and buy them things, listening to him brag about his new car etc) is what gets him attraction. When peacocking, wearing something unusual gets you attention, but how you handle the attention is what gets you attraction.

    You’ll disagree and call me abhorrently willfully ignorant of course. And then I’ll just tell you that you’re still looking at the surface level of things, which personally I find to be willfully ignorant. Of course, I actually go out regularly and experience this in action. :)


    • xsplat
      on January 19, 2012 at 6:03 pm
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      You still use the “logic” that since confidence is attractive, nothing else can possibly be attractive.

      Mental midget. It makes no difference how much you go out or how successful you are in picking up girls. That is not an argument against other traits being attractive ALSO.

      Your brain can’t even comprehend the meaning of AND.

      [heartiste: women didn't evolve over the millennia with a taste for dollar bills and nice cars. these things didn't exist in the EEA. what they *did* evolve is an attraction for the attitude and mannerism of the powerful man. since the currency by which power is communicated changes all the time on large enough time scales, evolution has ensured that the best way for women to determine among men who is powerful and who is not is to be turned on by those male psychological traits that normally accompany a powerful position in life. thus, women are attracted to the confidence of powerful men, and not the credentials, salary or number of underlings that a modern day powerful man would have. overconfidence is simply confidence without the conventional societal metrics to back it up. and as this study shows, women are attracted to the overconfidence ITSELF.]


      • xsplat
        on January 19, 2012 at 7:02 pm
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        [heartiste: women didn't evolve over the millennia with a taste for dollar bills and nice cars. these things didn't exist in the EEA. what they *did* evolve is an attraction for the attitude and mannerism of the powerful man. since the currency by which power is communicated changes all the time on large enough time scales, evolution has ensured that the best way for women to determine among men who is powerful and who is not is to be turned on by those male psychological traits that normally accompany a powerful position in life. thus, women are attracted to the confidence of powerful men, and not the credentials, salary or number of underlings that a modern day powerful man would have. overconfidence is simply confidence without the conventional societal metrics to back it up. and as this study shows, women are attracted to the overconfidence ITSELF.]

        No one is denying that women are attracted to confidence itself.

        It may be that it is a necessary trait, without which other traits hold little or at least less value.

        But there is a magical word in the English language, that is of great intellectual power. The word is “and”. Confidence is attractive AND other traits are ALSO attractive.

        There are scientific studies that show that other traits are in and of themselves attractive to women. Other traits that don’t reduce down to confidence. OTHER traits.

        It’s really not mind-bendingly complicated. Height, symmetry, youth, masculine features, smell, are just a handful

        And pri mates trade bananas for pussy, so don’t tell me that money is some new invention.


        • YaReally
          on January 20, 2012 at 8:57 am
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          You can keep repeating it all you want but it won’t be any less bullshit than it was the first time you said it.

          If you attribute value to money, and obtain a lot of money, then demonstrate confidence from that, it may seem like the money is the cause of attraction you get but it’s not, it’s the confidence the money gives you. Someone who doesn’t put value on money won’t get the same confidence boost from it.

          And that’s fine, as long as you have money, you’ll be confident and get laid. But your confidence is a very thin shell that can be easily shattered as soon as you no longer posses money or are in an environment where no one cares about your money or you’re around people who have more money than you (even if THEY don’t attach their self-worth to it the way you do).

          The ultimate goal of the PUA is to base your confidence on your internal attributes instead of external. So that you’re as confident when you’re poor as you are when you’re rich. So that you’ll approach a 10 when you’re in sweats and haven’t showered and still attract her, instead of waiting till you’re wearing your Armani suit and can “allow” yourself to feel confident.

          Women don’t orgasm when they walk into a bank.


          • YaReally
            on January 21, 2012 at 1:42 am
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            “You are not even addressing what I say.”

            You say a lot of nonsense. What specifically would you like me to address?

            “And you keep insisting that if confidence is attractive that this logically means that nothing else could ever possibly be attractive.”

            No, the things that you think are attractive are not attractive. Like I say, they get attention, and they can cause the things that ARE attractive, but they are, in themselves, not attractive and having them is not what attracts women, but having the attractive attributes that they cause you to display is what attracts women.

            This is not a difficult concept, once you let go of your attachment to money. If you gave a million dollars to a total beta chode, he would still not be getting laid. If you gave the confidence that having a million dollars has to a total beta chode, he would get laid. The money itself is not attractive to women.

            “For you it’s all 100% percent black and white either or.”

            That’s because I go out into that “real world” thing outside your computer room, instead of theorize from my computer chair or listen to “scientific studies” by guys who don’t get laid.

            “You can’t even grasp the concept of and.”

            You are wrong AND dumb. Did I use it right?

            “You insist that there is NOTHING at all other than confidence that is attractive.”

            Never said that. But most things that are attractive (solid body language, good eye contact, kino, leading, loud vocal projection, etc.) boil down to confidence so it’s a good catch-all. I do insist that the external things most guys tend to think is attractive (money, looks, height, etc.) are not relevant to getting laid however.

            To be a beta provider is a totally different story. Money, looks, height, all sorts of stuff becomes relevant there because of the social pressure a girl lets herself succumb to…but it’s still not attractive, thus all the rich good-looking tall beta providers who’s girls are off fucking other guys.

            A woman will fuck a lot of guys she won’t date. I’m talking about fucking them. But if you’re talking about how to date a girl and be a provider, then that’s where our disconnect is happening…and why the fuck are you even studying game lol

            “Not looks”

            Nope.

            “not height”

            Only for long-term dating, and online dating sites where girls will screen guys out based on their stats. Also really short guys (under 5’8″) have a tougher time of it due to reasons that could be an article in itself (but are social conditioning based, not attraction based), but they can still fuck girls taller than them with solid game. And there are a ton of tall guys who don’t get laid because they have shit game.

            “not smell”

            lol wtf. You should smell good, just to be socially competant in general. Carry breath mints. Unless you’re talking about pheromones and all that shit which is just scientists-who-don’t-get-laid blabber and is steamrolled over by game.

            “not intelligence”

            Never seen a dumb guy get laid before, hey? There definately aren’t any Jersey Shore type moron jocks getting pussy out there! Don’t know any engineers or programmers who don’t get laid, hey? You should get out and meet more people.

            “not athletic ability”

            No, wtf, are you doing push-up competitions to get girls? Girls don’t care, hell, you don’t even need cardio for fucking if you’re good with your tongue lol Carrying a girl out the bar over your shoulder helps in some situations though.

            “not an athletic build”

            Have you never seen a fat outgoing guy get girls while the athletic shy (rich or not rich) guys are stuck on the sidelines? If not, go out more, it’s very common. The deciding factor is the outgoingness (ie – confidence), not the athletic build.

            “and not demonstrable power over ones environment.”

            That’s attractive. But a manager giving you your meal on the house because he likes you because you’re a confident cool guy is worth more than pulling out a big wad of bills to pay for dinner and tip well.

            “There are many scientific studies that adequately address the measurable empirical reality of the existence of many factors other than confidence that raise the sexual availability, receptivity, buying temperature, and sexual arousal of women.”

            I’m sorry, I couldn’t hear you over the sound of you taping your glasses together. The “you have to mirror her body language and then release your pheromones” scientists aren’t getting laid the way PUAs and naturals are. That shit is so minor and irrellevant that to focus on it is a waste of your time.

            “You reason like a 3 year old.”

            I’m sorry, should I dumb it all down more for you?

            “And you are trying to defend an indefensible and a retarded, stupid, mule headed idiotic position.”

            :*

            “Confidence is not the ONLY trait that is attractive to women.”

            True, but most of the traits that are attractive to women can be boiled down to confidence. And the traits that you constantly harp on as being attractive to women are not.

            “and that you believe”

            These aren’t beliefs, dude. These are field-tested results. PUAs aren’t attached to any one system. We didn’t say “I want to wear a fuzzy hat so I’m going to pretend that gets attention and wear it!” We figured out “doing A gets result B” so we use it. If A got result C instead, we’d switch to something else. The fact that you think these are “beliefs” is what tells me you don’t go out and are simply assuming everyone is theorizing like you. You are a keyboard jockey arguing a theory, so you assume I’m doing the same.

            “that noticing the reality”

            No, that’s not the reality. Tens of thousands of PUAs have gone out and shattered your silly beliefs. It’s not our fault you’re behind on the technology and sit at home fucking your import girlfriend and keyboard jockeying bad advice instead of going out and field-testing all of this regularly to see it for yourself.

            “It’s about deciding what to believe in order to boost your confidence should you happen to be poor.”

            Blah blah blah. You don’t know enough poor people who are naturals with women. Go out more, meet more people, shatter your shitty beliefs.

            The “reality” is that you’re scared to admit that you don’t actually think you have any inherent self-worth because you’ve attributed it all to external attributes that you’ve worked very hard and dedicated a huge part of your life to obtaining. To admit that none of that shit matters would be to admit that you wasted a fuck-ton of your life chasing pointless crap. You don’t have to be ashamed, we all started out on that route because society told us that’s what was attractive to women. The guy who went to med school just ’cause he thought being a doctor would help him land the perfect wife only to find that he gets the same amount of attraction as any other guy with his confidence level, he doesn’t want to admit that his med degree doesn’t actually mean anything either and that he could’ve gotten as good or better results working at Burger King.

            You will keep clinging to these beliefs forever, I only keep replying to you because you spread this crappy information and there are guys reading this comment section for real advice and I don’t want them wasting their time falling into the psychological traps you’ve fallen into.

            You are the exact guy who says “Dude, you just need a Ferrari to get pussy!! TRUST ME!!! That’s the reality!!” except you’ve fancied that up with phrases like “attraction triggers” because you are trying to feign expertise.

            “It is true that distorting your beliefs to deny the real world measurable benefits of money is beneficial to boost confidence.”

            It’s not a real world measurable benefit for fucking. Unless you want to be a beta male provider for a girl, and then ya, you can totally find studies that say girls want their beta male providers (that they cheat on with alpha males on the side) to be rich. Obviously. But again, if that’s your goal, to be a beta provider for a girl and date her for 3 months before she fucks you and then marry her because you can’t get any other girls and wonder why she keeps coming home smelling like other men’s cologne, why are you reading this site?

            “That ultimate goal [of PUAs] is to be good with women, full stop.”

            You are ignorant and still talking about game like it hasn’t evolved since The Game was published and like we still wear fuzzy hats and open girls over the shoulder. Please don’t speak for PUAs when you aren’t one.

            “People go to the gym, even though confidence is attractive.”

            Being in good shape makes you feel better about yourself. What does feeling better about yourself do? Holy shit, it makes you CONFIDENT. :O :O :O

            “People pay attention to style, even though confidence is attractive.”

            Dressing well makes you feel better about yourself. What does feeling better about yourself do? HOLY SHIT. CONFIDENCE!!! WTF??!?!? Interestingly, if you feel being stylish is gay and unmanly (I’m currently in a city of metrosexuals who dress and groom excellent, but I know friends who throw on a Budweiser cap and old Levis and work boots and legitimately believe they look more like men than the metros do), dressing in an Armani suit will make you feel unconfident and akward and you will not be attractive compared to when you’re wearing your Budweiser cap.

            Why? Because the style is not attractive to women. It’s how it affects your confidence that is attractive. If you haven’t met guys like this and seen this in action, you need to go out and meet more people in more varied environments.

            “People develop an internal mental life, interesting hobbies, social capitol, and financial capitol, all with a mind to raising attraction, even though confidence is attractive.”

            Intellect, hobbies, money, give you confidence if you believe women are attracted to those things. But the REALITY (since you love that word today) is that those things are not attractive to women. What’s attractive is that you radiate confidence because you attribute value to “things”, and then have those “things” that you feel are valuable.

            If you have a lucky penny and fully believe that with it in your pocket women will be attracted to you, you will get attraction. It’s not because the penny is magical or attractive to women, it’s because that penny has value to you and you think it makes you attractive to women (even though that’s delusional, it’s just a penny you’ve attributed value to), so you act more confidently, which is what attracts women. One day you’ll forget your penny at home and feel less confident, and that will result in you not getting women, and you’ll say “SEE, the penny IS attractive!!!”

            Do you see why I keep saying you’re just looking at the surface yet? You’re like a guy that refuses to acknowledge that the heating system in a house is what keeps you warm when you’re in a house in the winter. “No the house is just WARM!!” Yes, because there’s a heating system that heats it. “NOOOO!!! The house is WARRRRM!!! Houses are just WARM, that’s the REALITY!! You’re brainwashing yourself by thinking that heat comes from heating systems!!!” Sigh…

            “They are maximizing all areas of attraction.”

            Then why are there so many rich, tall, good-looking guys with 6-packs and BMWs who can’t get laid to save their lives except by hookers they can pay to pretend they’re attracted? BECAUSE THOSE THINGS DON’T MAKE YOU ATTRACTIVE lol

            “You don’t need this school boy true-believer fundamentalism.”

            Blah blah blah label me in whatever way makes you feel better about your misguided beliefs. Go out more. :)



YaReally
on January 18, 2012 at 9:59 pm
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I’m not over-confident. I’m just perceptive and observant. of my overflowing awesomeness. lol

brb not making new years resolutions because I’m already perfect



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the_alpha_male
on January 17, 2012 at 6:18 pm
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You know what else is a chick magnet? Cocaine use.

[heartiste: so true. not that i would know anything about that.... this message will self-destruct in...]

Started to indulge in the white stuff in the last year in after hour booze cans out in the open……and it attracts the hottest women….9′s and 10′s. And before you say “They’re just after the blow”…….WRONG!!!

[agreed. it's often the case that the hot chicks will give YOU the blow! again, not that i would know anything about that...]

80% don’t do hard drugs or drugs at all.

[probably true for the genpop. niches are different. at least 50% of scenesters indulge in blow, the swpl drug of choice.]

Most surprising of all is that hardly any strippers (at least in my city) do blow anymore. Could be because to get a stripper license they can’t have a criminal record to dance in my city.

[strippers do ecstasy and smoke a lot.]

The one psycho chick i was with couldn’t help call me a loser and a moron every time i got drunk and high but it didn’t stop her from spreading her legs for me.

[by their spread legs ye shall know them.]


  • askjoe
    on January 17, 2012 at 7:27 pm
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    yeah, I heard the same thing about blow. I’ve heard it told that it’s basically love potion #9 with the hottest chicks in places like Miami and LA. And we’re talking real 9 and 10′s not the ice queen shit here. “Do you party?” leads to sexy time.

    But an interesting take on the “80% don’t do hard drugs or drugs at all” observed by TaM. So they just like a guy who does it…obviously not in the places where the bitches do it.


    • YaReally
      on January 18, 2012 at 12:14 am
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      Oldschool Tyler Durden field reports, regarding chicks and coke:

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      “As we get into the car, my girl tries to get in the front with her friend. I tell her I don’t like her anymore and that she’s not cool, and she freaks and jumps in the back with me. I get in and she spends the entire car ride qualifying herself as to why she’s not a typical LA girl. Then she starts saying “I sure hope you guys have party material back at the house..” I laugh and say “Cocaine? Haa, you’re a fucking coke slut. Playboy, dude, these are cokeheads..” (for guys not familiar with LA or NYC or London, most of the hottest girls are on coke.. its a fucking pathetic waste of premium genetics, but goes with the territory if you’re into sexing up models and the like..welcome to Los Angeles). My girl says “If you don’t have anything we’re going home”, because she’s angry at my remarks.

      I laugh at her, and say “You’re not cool, you know that. I’m not cool with you anymore. You’re like those kids in highschool that made fun of the nerds. Don’t talk to me.” She freaks out and says “NO, I wasn’t one of those girls. I totally was the opposite!” I say “OK, well telling me you won’t be my friend anymore because I won’t give you cocaine isn’t cool in my book, so you can pretty much forget about anything unless you stop it with this bratty behaviour”. She apologizes and tries to make out with me, and spends the rest of the car ride qualifying herself that she’s going to be good. I keep using the “I told you we wouldn’t get along” thing as a callback humour, as well as the little sister stuff like “little sister.. god, its a good thing you have me to take care of you..” type stuff.”

      -

      “And the guys here REALLY have a lot to offer. Most can advance their careers and connections, and give them cocaine and all that. On certain types of girls, I will laugh that shit off when they ask and say shit like “Shut the fuck up coke whore..You won’t hang out with me if I don’t feed you drugs you fucking retard?? Get the fuck out of here!” Then they’ll apologize and qualify themselves that they don’t do it all the time and want my validation more. I need to do more stuff like that in my general game on specific girls that I can tell will respond to it. btw, why do I want these girls? Personal preference. They are Maxim Magazine level hot, and what they do in the time after I delete them out of my phone is of no concern to me.”

      -

      “I remember a girl walking up to me asking me for cocaine, and me turning my back on her without acknowledging, like she didn’t exist. She said “Dude, are you serious? Look, do you have any”, and I said “Get the fuck out of here you fucking coke whore.. Don’t ask me for drugs, fucking retard”… She reopened me later in the night, trying to get rapport with me.”

      -

      That’s how you handle them when you have a legit abundance mentality, standards, and enough game/value that chicks are actually worried about not having your validation. How many guys here would call a 9 or 10 LA model a “fucking coke slut” and tell them to fuck off right to their face, and how many would be desperate enough to pretend to have coke at home or start doing coke to fit into their scene?



YaReally
on January 17, 2012 at 11:55 pm
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lol brb taking it up the bum in prison to get laid by girls after



King A
on January 18, 2012 at 12:12 pm
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This thread explains much. Thanks for it.

Women are involuntarily attracted to danger. Criminality is an indication of a man’s independence. Being undeterred by your rap sheet turns a potential liability into an asset, depending on how you handle it.

But the romance of criminality is woman-think, no different than any other myth inside their heads about the social dynamic, like the Knight in Shining Armor, or Mister Right, or My One and Only Soulmate, or The Destiny of Love. There are as many femmcentric movies about charming criminals as there are about lovesick-infatuated alphas and ugly duckling girls who only have to take off their glasses. Like most feminine theories, they fall apart in reality. (Not that women don’t persist in them anyway.) Ugly ducklings are fat and irredeemably nasty, alphas are not infatuated by definition, and criminals are fucking dumb. Watch “Cops” once.

So, yeah, you can exploit that female reality gap to your advantage, hint at the impossible fantasy that you have squared the circle of criminality and charm. Twatnip for sure. But don’t mistake a woman’s theory as actual. Criminality arrests your manhood. It demonstrates your stupidity in more than one way, first by revealing how inadequately you surveyed an unwinnable situation (Sun Tzu anyone?), and second by getting caught. Not that stupidity is a liability per se with the ladies, but it does lock you out of the highest levels of accomplishment. There are surer ways to demonstrate your independence than relying on one of women’s more preposterous and easily punctured delusions.

Real criminals are not a makeover project waiting to happen any more than real whores are Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. Criminals are antisocial retards, unable to acquire the basics of human interaction, not unlike the hopelessly autistic. If you can’t help but get in trouble with the law — which is about as easy a task as there is — it’s a sign you’re a much bigger putz than you can comprehend, and therefore not nearly as “dangerously attractive” as you think you are. Women “with options” don’t make random conjugal visits, because felons are life’s losers everywhere but in the minds of female screenwriters.

The comments to this thread scream that we are all Niggaz Wit Attitude now. Speak for yourself, homey. If that’s the best you can do, play your shitty hand to the max, bluff out your more timid rivals, go all in. That’s a respectable showing. But for the rest of us who didn’t grow up in the ghetto? Niggaz, please.


  • YaReally
    on January 18, 2012 at 1:16 pm
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    Shit. I actually agree with a King A comment.

    One of my social circles is a younger group of alpha guys who hit the bar with the motto “fuck or fight”. If they don’t get laid, they pick a fight. Gotta demonstrate you’re a man and all that, after all.

    They feel badass telling the stories of being thrown out or arrested the next weekend, and girls do tingle, especially social circle girls who hear about them thru reputation, but in cold approach pickup you aren’t picking up girls in the club if you aren’t still IN the club. The hottest girls who’ve spent months establishing and building reputations in high value social circles aren’t chasing your socially incompetent ass out the door yelling at the bouncers and cops on your behalf like a bad episode of Jersey Shore. Doesn’t mean they’re not attracted on a base instinct level watching you struggle with the bouncers, but you’re not fucking them.



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YaReally
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“Actually it’s more of a filtering failsafe in that by socially mandating a genuineness in the general populace of men, women are more secure in the accuracy of their sexual assessment of men. If all men are Just Being Themselves and are encouraged to be the person they ‘truly are’, this then aids a woman in determining which man will best satisfy her hypergamy.”

Dead on. Game threatens girls because it makes it harder if not impossible to assess a guy accurately. And down the road when his faking it becomes making it and he’s fully absorbed the qualities he didn’t have the first 20+ years of his life, she’ll find it hard to believe he was socially akward when he was younger because if you’re alpha you’re supposed to have always been alpha.

“Just be your BEST self” is a better way of saying it. Is sitting on a couch eating pizza and drinking beer watching TV with no job living at home with your parents your best self? Fuck no.


YaReally
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Also you can change whenever you want, all it takes is a new environment where no one knows you. Whether that’s moving to a new city, starting a new job, going to a bar on the other side of town, going to a bar none of your friends will be at, going on vacation, etc

If no one knows you and when you say hello you kick them in the ass, and you do that to a few people there, you are just that guy who kicks people in the ass when he says hello. They just assume you’ve been that way all your life and that’s who you are because as long as you’re congruent to it why would they think otherwise?

Go to a bar solo where you know you won’t run into anyone you know and adopt a new behavior, whether it’s saying hi to every girl or putting your arm around any girl you talk to or going for the kiss as soon as you say hello etc. you have total freedom to be whoever you want to be when you’re anonymous.

For a while you feel like a superhero being Clark Kent around your friends then going out and being Superman but over time (a looong period, like years) the two identities combine until you’re congruent thru and thru with everyone. You’ll lose some childhood friends along the way who cant accept your changing personality, and you’ll embarrass yourself along the way fucking up new behaviors or being called out on your incongruency, but in the end it will be worth it if you really want to change. :)


How To Remain Unflustered By Female Beauty

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YaReally
on January 13, 2012 at 5:33 pm
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“Imagine that cervical penis waiting to meet, glans-a-glans, your penis head in a romantic French kiss. A sword fight in the arena of her vagina.”

I have the weirdest boner right now……

I never understood the “imagine she’s an ugly piece of garbage covered in her own feces and vomiting into her own vagina” line of thinking. I don’t want to make a super hot girl ugly, how’m I supposed to enjoy fucking her when I land her with visions of that running through my head lol



How To Remain Unflustered By Female Beauty

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Matt
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Good advice. But certain female faces produce a chemical reaction in my brain that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get over. My problem is Eastern European/ Russian women with high cheekbones. When I see woman like that I literally become helpless, I feel a burning sensation in my brain, my entire body becomes numb. I don’t even have an urge to fuck these woman, its just like total cognitive shutdown when I see their face. I don’t get this with American and Western European women, even the hottest, I really want to bang them, but I don’t get debilitating chemical reaction in my brain. Some examples of Eastern European facial perfection:

Aletta Ocean (pornstar):
http://img.listal.com/image/1862851/600full-aletta-ocean.jpg

Brigitta Bulgari (pornstar):
http://s11.allstarpics.net/images/orig/f/p/fp67o7e6tdbjt6bo.jpg

Angel Dark (pornstar):
http://s11.allstarpics.net/images/orig/7/u/7u25fm26pnp0702p.jpg

Alina Kabaeva (Putin’s mistress and Olympian):
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-fIRX9hvEkTw/TgbeaQVkZEI/AAAAAAAAFMk/pUpXpxqOLPo/s1600/Alina%2BKabaeva%2B-%2B1.jpg

I actually have a headache now from searching for those pictures. Alletta Ocean, in particular, makes my head feel like its gonna explode. There is just no possible way I can train my brain to stop the chemical responses I get to cheekbones like that.

[heartiste: i agree with you about aletta. she would test even my resolve.]


  • Matador
    on January 14, 2012 at 1:13 am
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    Careful about aletta, make-up+myspace angle+photoshop. I learned to be skeptical of unreal beauties.Turns out I’m right:

    http://www.woodmanforum.com/girls/aletta-ocean-t2361.html

    This, plus the fact that she’s a cumdumpster, would definitely keep me unflustered.

    But I remember a few chicks with little make-up who had the same effect on me as aletta’s first picture, there’s a point where you just have to pray that the god of alphas won’t let you down.


    • Matt
      on January 14, 2012 at 1:42 am
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      Jesus, talk about cleaning up well. I wonder how many other very plain looking women with some makeup and plastic surgery could look too.

      Repeal obamacare and replace it with pornstar care: free & mandated plastic surgery for all young women who aren’t already an 8 or better.

      Would make the world a better place.



The Tao of Game

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YaReally
on January 10th, 2012 at 4:47 pm
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“‘Game Theory’ is even a term I’m kind of struggling with since people think it seems to exclude the actual practicing, or real world development of the same principles I explore on this blog. For the record, I believe it’s just as important to hone one’s PUA skills / tools as it is to understand why they work.”

For the Keyboard Jockeys who’ve been reading this blog for months without going out and talking to girls: Studying Game Theory without going out and thinking you’re better with women is like watching weightlifting videos without going to the gym and thinking you’re getting stronger, or reading about dieting while scarfing down donuts and thinking you’re getting thinner.


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YaReally
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100% true article. Good stuff.

When you improve yourself, your real friends will support you and you’ll find out who your fake friends are. Unfortunately, you’ll also find that there were way less real friends in your social circle than you thought.

People don’t like a reality shift. That’s why AFC/Whiteknights have trouble accepting game concepts even though that new knowledge would benefit them. Once you start re-thinking one part of your beliefs, you have to start re-thinking other parts and it’s just too much of a mindfuck for most people to deal with since they had everything all nice and orderly in their minds before.

It’s much easier to say “Dude, that’s not you, why are you doing that, be yourself man, you’re being weird.” so you cave and go back to the label they’ve put on you in their heads and they can go back to knowing how the world works.

There’s also the crabs in a bucket situation. Where if your friends view you as equal to them, and then you go and improve yourself, but they haven’t, your changing yourself for the better rubs in their face that they’re lazy shits who aren’t doing that for themselves so they feel worse. What’s easier than following you on your journey and improving themselves? Getting you to give up your journey so they don’t have to feel as pathetic anymore. Entrepreneurs run into this a lot. So do people who move away from their small-town pot-head buddies to “the big city” and get good high paying jobs and then come back to visit.

Moving to a new city, or a new chapter in your life (college, new job, etc.) helps a lot with big identity changes. You’ll go back to visit your old social circle in a year or two and they won’t even recognize you. Some of them will hate the new you, and a very small number of them will accept the new you. Ditch the haters, even if you have history with them, life is too short and you can make new, better friends, who want the best for you.



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YaReally
on January 9, 2012 at 10:22 pm
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Some girls will show up dressed like shit just to see how desperate you are. Especially the really hot ones, ’cause they know they don’t have to put any effort in and every guy will still want to fuck them because that’s what they’re used to.

When you open the door and they’re wearing sweatpants, look them down and up slowly, turn them by the shoulders, give them a spank them on the ass and say “Try again.” and close and lock your door. You can calmly and authoritatively explain your standards in txt when they inevitably bitch you out. They either won’t come back (good, why do you want to fuck a girl who doesn’t take care of her looks?), or they’ll come back dressed properly and mad at you (but they love the drama, so they’re horny as fuck despite the pretending to be mad). Either way is a win.

I usually have this discussion ahead of time though, when we’re just txting about shit I’ll steer the conversation towards dressing up and let them know I’ve kicked girls out for thinking they could come over looking like shit. That snuffs the problem out before it happens.

Definitely hate the trend. I’ve been to cities where the women dress like women and eat healthy and work out and it’s just a fucking gorgeous-fest in all directions.


  • halisi
    on January 11, 2012 at 12:36 pm
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    Why would you spank them? That’s disgusting, and completely disrespectful! No wonder they didn’t come back!


    • YaReally
      on January 11, 2012 at 6:32 pm
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YaReally
on January 9th, 2012 at 6:20 pm
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This is a typical response from someone who:

1) tried game but didn’t get very good at it

2) won’t get very good at game

“you first have to go to places where there are women.”

True. Of course, I’m already going to those places because I’m hanging out with my friends or running errands or what-have-you. So really, I’m not going out of my way because I’d be there anyway. Or if I’m going on a special chick-hunt, I’m doing it in my free time while other guys are playing videogames or bitching on message boards.

“Then you have to chat up ten or more women before you get 3-4 numbers.”

lol 10+???? Keep working on your game.

“Then you have to call the numbers”

Nah, you just shoot a few txts. One that night, and a few through the week. I usually do this while I’m on the shitter. No one phones anymore, it’s 2012.

“set up dates”

lol if you consider “hittin ClubX tonight, you should come out” a date I guess. No one goes on gay dinner dates. You just tell them you’re doing something you have to do anyway and have them join you. “come help me pick out vegetables I don’t know shit about squeezing melons ;) ” or “you should come over for lunch” (when she shows up you just escalate, dont waste your food she doesn’t really want to eat anyway) etc. so again you’re not going out of your way cause you’d be going to that club or shopping or whatever anyway.

And that’s only if you didn’t properly attract in the initial meeting or if you have shitty txt game and didn’t build up the attraction and set a sexual frame via txts so you can just skip the whole “date” bullshit altogether.

“get flaked on”

That’s fine, I’m at the place doing the thing I’d be doin anyway. It’s not like I’m some retard sitting at a candlelit table at a restaraunt with two steaks i paid for on the way lol sounds like you might’ve been that a few too many times.

“go out on dates”

lol. Seriously, you just build attraction beforehand and invite them over and fuck them. Ya I get it, I used to waste time too, when I was a newbie and thought you needed 7 hours of comfort blah blah blah. The game has evolved and as you get better you get more efficient.

Hell one of my natural buddies doesn’t even take girls’ numbers anymore he just hands them his. If they txt that means they want to fuck. He just invites them over and they have sex.

Your game sucks and is inefficient. I’m sorry this may come as a shock to you.

I’m not saying I get 100% of the girls I chat up, but I do minimize the costs in terms of time, money, and energy involved in getting them. And really even if it ended up costing, say, the same as an $80 hooker (bet THAT’S some quality poon lol), you’re paying every time. Whereas that girl comes over to fuck me for weeks, months, or years for free. And brings me free shit and cooks for me and all sorts of fun stuff lol

On top of that, I don’t have to spend any more time with them than a hooker if I set things as just a sexual frame. They just come over, soon as I open the door I makeout with her, then carry her to the bedroom and when we’re done I send her on her way.

You can inflate numbers and count shit like “well you wouldn’t gel your hair if it weren’t for pussy so you have to add up the cost of your hair gel per date!!!!!!!!!” if it makes you feel better about yourself and your lack of success, but the reality is: your game sucks.


YaReally
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lol you and your “attraction triggers”. What book did you get that term from anyway?

While this guy is bribing girls with money they’re txting me to fuck later. One of my FB’s friends has a sugar daddy who flew them both to his city, put them up in a 5-star hotel, twelve them each $800 in shopping money for a spree. She bought lingerie to wear for me and I 3-somed them a few weeks later while they both made fun of the guy. She literally just txts him every few months when she wants some free shit. That guy thinks he’s a “playa”.

Money = irrelevant.


YaReally
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P.S. keep in mind I’m talking about cold-approach pickup here. I’m not even talking about easy-ass social circle game where you spend even LESS time/energy/money to get laid cause other people do half your work for you lol or hitting a bar where you’re a regular and have social proof with bartenders and waitresses and shooter girls and other people there etc.


YaReally
on January 9th, 2012 at 6:47 pm
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“but how many guys are really in relationships / marriages where their woman is actually appreciating their sacrifices, much less adoringly, devotedly, contemplating her position with her husband / BF”

“This is really AD’s starting point. Why commit to the average woman who feels she entitled to your provisioning”

Wait what? Does this blog promote getting into monogamous marriages and committing to one woman? I’m new here, sorry, so I haven’t read a ton of the articles yet but if that’s the case then sure, fucking a hooker is better than getting married lol

But even if you’re in a shitty relationship, you can get some fuckbuddies on the side for fun for cheaper. Hell if you find ones who are in sexually unsatisfying relationships themselves you don’t even have to worry about them being clingy or wanting more than just sex and they respect that you’re in a relationship and don’t fuck with it.

Sure it takes an initial investment of time/money/energy to get TO this point, where you can set this sort of frame. But once you’re there, it’s a cakewalk and you don’t have to do anything.


YaReally
on January 9th, 2012 at 9:47 pm
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“Fact is unless you have rock star status sex just doesn’t come as easy as you would like to believe it does “if your game is tight”.”

The fact that you type stuff like this, is how I know you aren’t going out and getting laid regularly.

The fact that you believe it, is how I know that you won’t ever get to be as good as you could be.


YaReally
on January 9th, 2012 at 9:54 pm
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“they aren’t so quick to acknowledge the fact that half of the reason why they have to constantly recruit new pussy is because the women they sex eventually move on to the bigger, better deal.”

Again, comments like this are how I know you suck at game. You haven’t gotten to the point where the women chase you, you got to the point where you were able
to barely keep their interest (that’s why you got flaked on so much and had to go on dates instead of just having them over to fuck). And then you gave up, and probably tell yourself it’s because you had money to make and bitches aren’t important blah blah blah and now live in a happy bubble with xsplat who also doesn’t go out and pick girls up regularly.

I’m not trying to be a dick, I’d just rather guys reading these comments know that guys like you are full of shit cause this is a good blog from the articles I’ve read so far and your “I sure was the player back in MY day kiddo, sure I haven’t set foot in a club in months or years let alone taken hot girls off guys arms and walked out with them that same night, but I’m still an expert on this stuff” just gives you a false authority that I hope guys don’t listen to because you’re just spouting stuff that lets you feel comfortable with your mediocrity.


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YaReally
on January 10th, 2012 at 4:18 pm
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No prob with the rest of your post but this:

“If you claim to be “alpha” but have nothing to show for it – sure you may be able to get young women, but the older they get and the louder the biological gong gets, the more it is a consideration since a woman wants someone who can provide for and protect any children and that requires assets – that is a biological imperative, and cannot be overcome easily.”

Is Jockey-Talk. If you’re an alpha with no resources they’ll still fuck the shit out of you, and if their clock is ticking they’ll try to get pregnant from you. They’ll just find a beta tool to provide the resources and raise your kid, and you’ll be the secret lover on the side.

It’s no harder at all to get them into bed or to fall in love with you if you have no resources.


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YaReally
on January 10th, 2012 at 8:35 pm
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“I find it unnerving that you are able to believe this.”

I think what I love most is when guys who VERY CLEARLY do not go out and pick up regularly use phrases like “you’re able to believe this” or “you think this” or “you’d like to believe” when they disagree with me.

Yes, I “believe” this stuff. Do you know why? Because I am actually out in the field regularly seeing and experiencing this stuff in action instead of sitting in my armchair jockeying like you. It’s not a matter of “belief”. I don’t “believe” water is wet, it just IS. Go put your hand in water and you’ll see that it’s wet. It’s that simple. The fact that you question it tells me right away that you haven’t put your hand in water.

Older chicks who want to settle down and have a kid will look for a provider, but they’re still women who want to be sexually turned on so they’ll look for good sex on the side. If the guy they settle with is a good provider but super beta (the easiest guys for them to get to settle into marriage), they’ll cheat on him on the side and try to get an alpha baby. They’ll hook up with guys who look similar to their hubby so they can try to pass the baby off as his since a lot of guys are still too dumb to get DNA tests done.

One of my FBs wears her engagement ring when she blows me because she thinks it’s “naughty”. She’s not on the pill and never wants to use a condom (but we do) and has flat out said if she got pregnant “you wouldn’t have to worry about it”. She would happily get pregnant by me and have her boy raise it as his own, without a second thought or her conscience giving a damn.

And this isn’t the only chick like this, I’d say probably 80% of the girls I’ve fucked who have significant others have the same attitude (regardless of age, though the older they are the more likely it is since they’re dying to have a kid whereas the younger chicks aren’t as baby-hungry).

Fucking older chicks is easy, even with no resources. You just have to make sure you watch your own ass and wrap your tool so you don’t get them pregnant ’cause they’ll try every trick in the book to make it happen.


YaReally
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“You are implying that this applies to most women.”

Yep.

“Certainly it applies to some women.”

Really? Then what you’re whining is about? The exact % degree of how many women it applies to? Should we narrow it down to 71.354% or find some scientific studies that say it’s 18.232243534%?

“Sometimes they accept that the provider and the father can be a different person”

So you agree with me. Then wtf are you on about?

“but genetic studies show that this is a minority of cases”

…you’ve heard of condoms right? Just ’cause they want another guy’s kid doesn’t mean they get it. Although maybe in your world where you’re out irresponsibly “causing more pregnancies than I have fingers myself”

“especially among the educated white classes and among the more socially conservative.”

Almost as if those people would be more likely to use birth control…weird!! :O

“You see things in the very strangest black and white fanatical terms. A real religious fanatic.”

Label me whatever you want, it doesn’t make your points any more legit.

“It could totally pummel your confidence if you were to acknowledge an attraction trigger that you don’t possess.”

You can’t just make shit up and call it “attraction triggers”. You’re the guy who wears a new shirt out and goes “I got attention today!! This new shirt is an attraction trigger! If other guys have this shirt, they’ll get attraction!!” You’re still looking at surface level shit instead of what the underlying core reasons that shirt got you noticed, and why money seems to help, and how it’s not the money or shirt itself but the other things they do to your subcommunications which you can duplicate via other means.

This is a REALLY simple concept. You’re just not looking past the surface.


Another Game Theory Vindicated By Science

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Sidewinder
on January 6, 2012 at 2:48 pm
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Couple comments – on your first point about evaluative listening: I find that men are much more capable of this kind of empathy than women. The hamster gets so loud in their head that they often cannot understand plain english. For this reason, I second your prediction that utilizing this skill would impress a female. But like anything, HOW you do it could either project clingly rapport-seeking, or confident conversational mastery.

Sociosexuality – is this really male sluttiness, or another word for general sexual pre-selection? I’m not arguing, i’m just curious as to the actual definition. For example, principles of hypergamy would suggest to me that a man who was known for having apparently monogamous relationships with beautiful women would fare better than the same guy who indiscriminately beds lots of girls.I would think that a man’s confident in being selective would up his market value.

Getting out there and doing it – I’m on it. Your principles will be put into action in a midwestern city tonight.


  • Lara
    on January 6, 2012 at 4:40 pm
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    Beautiful women are great, but they are still just women. There isn’t that much difference between us, when it comes down to it. I feel like a man who had been with many women would understand that.

    [heartiste: you're basically right about this. women as a sex do share certain temperamental and personality traits, as well as ways of perceiving the world around them, and what they find most desirable in men.
    however, a case can be made that beautiful women and plain or ugly women differ in some notable respects, and that this difference is directly attributable to how each group is received by men.
    similar to how beta males often wind up bitter and malcontent because of the repeated failure with women they suffer through the course of their lives, plain janes and fugs tend to be more cynical, sluttier and antagonistic toward male desire. but unlike innate sex characteristics we all have upon conception, these kinds of differences are learned from experience, good or bad.]


    • King A
      on January 6, 2012 at 6:10 pm
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      Lara wrote:

      Beautiful women are great, but they are still just women. There isn’t that much difference between us, when it comes down to it. I feel like a man who had been with many women would understand that.

      The ennui of success. Try telling one of these “sarging” strivers that the objects of their game efforts are interchangeable and ultimately, in the aggregate, mundane. A world-beating rich man isn’t motivated once he attains the object of his desiring, unlike the young comers who dream of stacks n stacks n stacks of benjamins. Same with chasing skirts.

      Enjoy’d no sooner but despised straight,
      Past reason hunted, and no sooner had
      Past reason hated, as a swallow’d bait
      On purpose laid to make the taker mad;
      Mad in pursuit and in possession so;
      Had, having, and in quest to have, extreme;
      A bliss in proof, and proved, a very woe;
      Before, a joy proposed; behind, a dream.

      Here’s the secret. It’s never as sweet as you dream it will be. St. Augustine calls it concupiscence, the false promise of lust, and the subsequent melancholy once the object of our lusting is obtained. Over and over and over, upon arriving indisputably to the top of their field, men feel that almost-suicidal pang of Is that all there is? “A man who had been with many women would understand” that “beautiful women are great,” but so is fly-fishing. It’s the hardest concept to get across to rising journeymen, who violently reject the possibility that the animating principle of their efforts — their unprecedentedly exhilarating efforts with tremendous returns — could be as pointless as any other obsession. Psychological dabblers regard this as “the journey being sweeter than the destination,” but the truth is much deeper and much darker than that feckless cliché.

      Fecisti nos ad te et inquietum est cor nostrum donec requiescat in te.

      Yours is a very astute point, Lara. It’s one that is almost always discovered through experience, which tells me you know whereof you speak. Women are intuitive, they can sense the poseur even if they can’t always articulate the source of his fakery. Men of accomplishment, and the vibe they give off, are not what the naif expects. But a woman detects this truth subrationally: all of her instincts are poised for this detection from the first stirring of her womanhood. Meanwhile the mimic-monkey fools no one but his fellow poseurs (I’m looking at you “seduction industry”) and, worst of all, himself.


      • YaReally
        on January 7, 2012 at 11:44 am
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        “Try telling one of these “sarging” strivers that the objects of their game efforts are interchangeable and ultimately, in the aggregate, mundane.”

        We’re aware, thanks.

        P.S. Fuck, you’re a tool.



An Updated Cold Read

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YaReally
on January 6, 2012 at 1:42 pm
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This is super gay. But it works. It’s just really oldschool tech like “can I get a female opinion?” from back when PUA was more “I’m a dancing monkey – please approve of me” versus now where it’s evolved more to “go ahead, try to impress me”.

PUAs would get girls asking “are you gay??” all the time because of stuff like this where you’re sort of absorbing part of girls’ personality an mannerisms into yours. Guys would drop into valley-girl speak (“like omg totally”) and shit.

Thing is, it works. The girls would shriek “omg!!!” and be intrigued. Some guys even played the gay thing up all the way to fucking the girl, just to experiment with it lol

But PUA has evolved a lot since then, now we tend to focus on emphasizing the masculine side of things and making the girl qualify herself to us instead of emphasizing the feminine side of things and trying to fit into the girl’s world.

[heartiste: yareally, that's an important distinction and game evolution. care to elaborate? i'm being sincere in my request. i wonder if both can't be incorporated into a man's game at the same time.]

So instead of wearing a feather boa and going “guys I totally need a girl’s opinion–(touch an elbow) omg you are SO the Samantha of the group aren’t you lol” you just wear normal clothes and go “hey, who are you? You’re cute, come here. (grab around the waist, pull her in) Why are you causing trouble, hmm?”

Best term for describing it that I’ve heard so far is speaking to the girl like “a man to a woman”. The old way, like this Glee routine, is speaking to the girl like “a woman to a woman”.

Again it works, I’m not talking smack about the concept itself. I’ve seen a buddy use “you guys are like the Powerpuff Girls” to consistently blow open sets of chicks like a fucking nuke going off, it’s retarded. BUT, consider how you want your vibe to come off to people in general before you run around using routines like this.


  • YaReally
    on January 6, 2012 at 10:08 pm
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    “[heartiste: yareally, that's an important distinction and game evolution. care to elaborate? i'm being sincere in my request. i wonder if both can't be incorporated into a man's game at the same time.]”

    When PUAs first started figuring this stuff out, we approached it in terms of value like: “she’s up there, I’m down here, but I’m going to trick her into thinking I’m on her level (evil laugh)” Thus the original intention behind negs was to “lower the girl’s self-esteem”. It was socially crippled nerds attacking social elites in Hollywood parties and stuff, not a decent looking dude in a nice shirt hitting on a 7 at his local pub.

    But while this TOTALLY worked, it caused a lot of the problems people associate with PUA stuff today…negs being used to “lower a girl’s self-esteem”. Guys painting their nails black and wearing fuzzy boas to peacock. Guys coming across as effeminate with their Sex in the City cold reads. Guys being dancing monkeys trying to keep the conversation going so the girl won’t leave as soon as he runs out of things to say. It also meant holding back on intent and being mainly indirect.

    Now a lot of people still think PUA today is like this, which is unfortunate. That’s why people busting on PUA stuff annoys me, they’re busting on shit that was popular during The Game’s era, but it’s changed.

    Now we look at the value like: “I’m a man, she’s a woman, we’re both on the same level. But I know what I’M offering, so I’m going to give her a chance to show me what SHE’S offering.”

    This is really important because now when you look at it from that perspective, does it seem congruent to be using harsh negs on 7s? Does it seem congruent to peacock ridiculously? Does it seem congruent with being the same value as her to keep blabbing and throwing out Powerpuff Girl routines trying to keep her attention? Hell, does it seem congruent to go in sneaky and indirect under the radar?

    Or would congruence to being on the same level look more like dressing normal, but your best with maybe a little peacocking here and there (a necklace, wearing a tie when other people are wearing t-shirts, etc.), approaching her offering value and fun and good emotions, and directly letting her know what your intent with her is and letting her know you’re interested early on?

    The biggest difference to an outside observer between the two mentalities is that the first guy looks like a gay guy who knows Glee characters, and the second guy looks more manly alpha. It’s a lot easier to express yourself as a man and to treat a woman like a woman when you’re in the mindset of a man embracing his masculinity instead of acting effeminate, even if that can work.

    As for combining the two, I’d like to say you can combine them, but you have to change the tone of things. You could do the Glee cold read, but you’d have to act totally disinterested in the show and blame a former GF for making you watch it, and throw the observation out as a casual thought like saying “you remind me of a friend back home…huh. weird.” VS “like omg, you are totally the Samantha of the group lol” It can show a playful side to your James Bond exterior to be able to deadpan something like that.

    But at the end of the day it comes down to congruence. If you legitimately LIKE shows like Glee, fuck, do it up, it’s going to be congruent to your “manliness”. If you don’t, then it’s going to come off incongruent and akward. She doesn’t have to know WHY your vibe feels “off”, she just has to feel that it’s off to bail.



Tokens Of Appreciation

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wil
on January 3, 2012 at 6:00 pm
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Had sex with a girl who has a beta husband and daughter with him. The next day she gives a speech about alcohol and xanex and not remembering anything while being near me.

It wasn’t exactly spontaneuous. She was coming on to me for months and began openly talking about cheating and joked to me about having an affair.

She seemed ecstatic afterwards and claimed she had never orgasmed with her husband before. We talked awhile after and it seemed like she was trying to get me to say I loved her. I didn’t.

Any advice?


  • YaReally
    on January 3, 2012 at 10:38 pm
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    You made her feel like a slut. She’s worried you’re judging her so she’s rewriting history in her head which can be very dangerous for you. False rape accusations are generally the result of the guy not diffusing Buyer’s Remorse before, during, and after the fact.

    Going by your description (her cool with the lead up, her cool with the immediate aftemath, then her 180′ing) I’d pin-point it down to you didn’t txt her something sweet/friendly/funny after fucking, made sure she got home okay, joked around about how hot the night was, etc.

    End result is she feels like a slut and now you’re a rapist! Hooray for backwards rationalization!

    “this is fun! That was fun! Oh he didn’t call me. Does he think I’m a slut? Omg I’m NOT a slut. I couldn’t have had fun. He must have raped me!!!”

    Read up on PUA stuff for diffusing Buyer’s Remorse before you get your ass in trouble.

    Most naturals suck at this part. They get laid a lot but they have a LOT of former fucks who hate them. On the flip side a good PUA’s former fucks all rant and rave about what fun they had. All the difference is in handling the Buyer’s Remorse so they feel good about what happened not guilty.

    For your current situ, it might not be salvageable. Now that she’s switched in her head, anything you do she’ll interpret as rapey since to open back up to you she’d have to admit she liked what happened but she now associated what happened with her being a slut so she can’t go back to liking it

    Run and hope she doesn’t press charges.


  • tyrone
    on January 4, 2012 at 6:59 am
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    This has huge potential to blow up in your face. She’s already thinking about moving in with you and her babies. If she’s on anti-depressants, she has huge potential to flake on you and make all kinds of accusations. Then you have to worry about her husband. He may decide to cause big trouble too. Pump and dump, move on and if she needs to know, tell her to learn to be happy with her husband.


    • YaReally
      on January 4, 2012 at 1:52 pm
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      She will absolutely throw you under the bus with her husband too, and not give a single fuck about it. Like if he says “you cheated on me!!” she won’t hesitate to say “no I was raped here’s his address” partly because she’ll get off on the drama/fight but also partly because it’s an extension of what I was talking about: now someone ELSE has accused her of being a slut so she cements the rape story in her mind even more solid because she’s definitely not a slut so she MUST have been raped.

      And now you have a husband who wants to kill you and possible legal rape charges (he can bully her into pressing charges and she’ll go along with it if it keeps her psyche from having to admit she’s a slut) and all sorts of other shit. Not worth it to keep this girl as a fuckbuddy, there’s more pussy out there.

      There’s a point where a girl could take a lie detector test about the situation and she’ll have convinced herself so adamantly that things happened differently that she’d pass with flying colors.

      This isn’t to freak you out, just to say: learn to manage Buyer’s Remorse. The game isn’t over once your P is in her V. PUA’s skill with handling the aftermath of sex is part of our “leave them better than you found them” thing. You couldn’t find a girl in my history who would say bad things about me (even the girls like yours who cheat on their husbands with me, or the one night pump n dumps) cause I’m awesome at this part of it.



pm
on January 3, 2012 at 7:15 pm
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Biggest change: Get rid of the comment moderation and delay time between posting and having it shown on the blog. This ruins the comment section IMO because you get less quality posters who want to wait 5 hours for their post to show up.


  • YaReally
    on January 3, 2012 at 10:55 pm
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    Agreed on the delay thing. It’s pretty annoying. Once a new article or two goes up I generally don’t bother to go back to the old article comments and that was fine when we could have little conversations when the article was new but now it’s like a drive-by comment and you don’t know if the person you’re responding to will even read it.

    A lot of guys ask for help in the comment section with their personal situations and it feels like why put in the effort of a solid thorough response when the person won’t bother checking for responses for a day or two and by then the article has been pushed down.

    Just my two cents. :P